Parenting alone....

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Has anyone who has taken the decision to end a marriage/relationship and so taken on parenting alone??? how did it work out? how did you cope? was it worse than you thought it would be or better?? TIA xxx

I was a single mum for 4 years, i was also a very young mum. To be perfectly honest, in some ways its easier, you have noone disagreeing with your methods, home works around you and how you want it to etc.
Sometimes it can be hard when youve had enough and theres no one to share it with, but then alot of women feel that in a marriage anyway!

Im guessing that you are asking this for a reason, and i hope everything works out okay for you. Good luck.x

Yes I did when DD was weeks old ended a 7 yr marriage. Things worked out well for me, but I was lucky When I was on mat leave stayed with my parents which was big help. DD always an easy baby to look after and when I went back to work when she was 7 months old work were very understanding and I only did 9-5. I spent only 2 years as SP which may have coloured my judgement. Single parenting difficult in that you have no one to discuss/share things with either good or bad. But advantage that you only have to give emotional attention to the child. Now I have to worry about a child and a husband. I find it less physically exhausting but in some ways emotionally more exhausting. Swings and round abouts like most things in life.

Yep. Some days it's worse, some days better. tbh once you've got used to it, on the whole it jogs along just as doing it with someone else does. You don't have someone living you in the house undermining you (although you still have relatives who do) and the hardest part for me is not so much the parenting (with lots of concentration and consistency and above all confidence in your own methods, I think you can manage that), it's the lack of time to yourself. But some women don't get time to themselves when they have a so-called partner, so I'm not sure that's particularly to do wiht being a lone parent.

Well the reason i ask is that i am in a relationship that is not good, i love him but i dont like him and he is very verbally, emotionaly, and physically abusive, i have caught him chatting to other women via internet and phone many times and i dont trust him really, he is an ok dad he loves the kids very very much and plays football and such with them, but he rations there toys as he thinks they are messy things, he is obsessively tidy about there stuff (never his own) and he is very manipulative - i dont fancy him and we dont have any kind of sex life as i cant bring myself to go near him tbh, its quite clear im fighting a lossing battle by staying here but im really scared of being on my own with 3 kids (they are 6, 3, and almost 1)i was on my own briefy when ds1 was a baby and i was ok, i got lonely at times but it was ok as a whole, we have tried to work things out many times, but it just never works, he cries and begs me to stay he tells me he so sorry and he loves me, but i give in and he goes right back to his old ways, he is alot better but i just cant cope with his temper and his hideous self hygiene (baths, showers - never, which i find completely disgusting) how do i bring myself to leave and to be strong about it? how do i tell the kids? how do i deal with it all? im so scared of leaving and then thinking i have made a mistake, where do i even start?