Is this enough food for a 2yo?

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Would anyone have a look over DD (24m) food and see if we're missing a trick? I don't really know what we're doing I'm not overly worried but she is thinning out a little, and I don't know whether that's just her shooting up or whether we actually should be offering more food. She won't stay still for the scales but I reckon she's getting on for 11kg, which puts her around the 75th percentile, which is about the same as she's always been. So there might be absolutely nothing to worry about! But equally we might be giving her too much milk, and need to replace it with food.

All in all, any wise words would be appreciated!

5oz milk as soon as she wakes
About 8.30, 9ish breakfast - 2 Weetabix or a big bowl of Shreddies or a sachet's worth of porridge, often with some fruit to follow
Mid-morning - maybe a biscuit or an oatcake but she is often happy to just go through until lunch
Lunch - on a general day I'll send her to the CM with an oatcake or crackers (she's gone off untoasted bread), pieces of cheese and meat, a little pot of veg (peas, carrots, cucumber etc), a small fromage frais, and a little pot of fruit. It's rare any of this is sent home
Mid-afternoon 4oz milk (still likes to drink it from a bottle, that's a whole other battle we've decided not to force as she drinks it in one go, we'll do it when she's a bit older) and maybe a snack such as dates, nuts, oatcake, garibaldi, banana etc
Dinner at 5.30ish would be something like beans on toast, scrambled egg/omlette with vegetables, pasta with pesto and vegetables, spaghetti bolognese - nothing out of the ordinary, but not a huge portion. Say 1 egg and a handful of cooked veg, of 2 fish fingers with 1/3 tin of beans, toddler bowl-sized portion of pasta. Possibly some fruit afterwards.
5oz milk again at bedtime.

Is that an average amount, or too little? I don't have much interaction with other kids at the moment but when I do, they seem to snack more than DD which is why I'm a bit worried that afternoon milk should maybe be replaced with something more solid - but then, I think I've heard friends say their kids are having more milk in total throughout the day.

Basically, I don't have a clue but am every so slightly worried that despite her not asking for food much at all, we're slightly underfeeding her

Could anyone share and help please?

Hmm.. that sounds okay to me. Is she hungry during the day?

I have a DS who is 3.5 and is on the slim side, and this was him today- a pretty normal day;

Bk - warmed soy milk. A cup of cheerios. A slice of toast with butter
Sk- half a cut up apple
Ln- a small bowl of pasta twists with tomato sauce, grated cheese, carrot sticks
Sk- half a twix bar another slice of toast and half a pear
Dn- a toddler sized portion of roasted chicken, honey carrots, broccoli and mashed pots (all eaten)
Dessert- a natural yoghurt with jam

Oatcakes are great, because they are so filling. He has a cooked meal at pre-school three days a week so I often do baked beans on toast plus fruit too for dinner.

Reading back, it does not sound like much, what I have fed DS, but he has no restrictions on portion size, I let him eat as much or as little as he wants. I think DH maybe gave the DCs some pretzels and hummus also- as DH is addicted and the children share with him while I am cooking.

This is my 2 year old dd's average diet:

8.30-9am - breakfast (cheese on toast, will eat 3/4, and a small bowl of. Ready brek)
10am - Mid morning snack - raisins/fruit, chunk of cheese, some ricecakes, juice
11.30am - Lunch- cooked meal (eg jacket potato with cheese and beans, salmon fillet with cous cous and veg, lasagne, spag Bol etc)
12.30pm - 3-4oz of milk (drank from a cup and straw)
3pm - mid afternoon snack - fruit and yoghurt , oat bar, fruit
5.30pm - dinner(different to lunch but same type of god - a cooked hot meal)
6.30pm - bedtime milk, same as 12.30 nap milk, and a biscuit.

That sounds quite similar. She doesn't really ask for food - she might be very hungry by dinner time (whining, more tantrummy etc) but it's rare she actually drags us to the kitchen and demands food. However sometimes I worry if I should keep putting food in front of her until she stops eating at mealtimes?

I'm not worried about her weight, it just struck me that portion size etc probably hasn't changed in a good 6 months at all.

I'd be pleased if 2.4yo ds ate all that! His average daily food intake is:

7am ish - breakfast, couple handfuls of cereal with milk
Sometimes has "2nd breakfast" when mummy gets up about an hour later and has more cereal.
10.30ish - snack of fruit pouch, slice of toast/brioche, some fruit (one of these)
12.30ish - lunch, hit and miss but the most is half sandwich, fruit and sticks cucumber/pepper. Sometimes cooked lunch like omelette (2eggs) or half jacket spud and cheese if we're out
3pm - snack, as morning
5.30ish - dinner, whatever we're having usually, so handful of spaghetti and few spoons of bolognese, or half sausage and some batter, few bits of veg. And ALWAYS pudding :) ice cream and chocolate sprinkles, or fruit cocktail and cream.

He's always been a difficult eater and we've learnt not to stress too much about it. He's growing, and over a week gets a fairly healthy diet. I would however keep offering food until he refuses it, even if he clears his portion. He's quite able to push his plate away throw his cutlery when he's had enough and we've learnt to trust his own idea of appetite. He goes through phases of what he'll eat, currently loving fruit and mushrooms. Oh, and he has a beaker of milk at bedtime, that's it.

Oh, and ds rarely actually asks for food, I just know the symptoms! He's often hungriest at 4ish when I'm trying to prepare dinner so has a healthy snack then. I've chosen to feed him whenever and whatever sometimes rather than stick religiously to mealtimes.