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How long to wait before trying for Number 2

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WriggleJiggle · 29/07/2006 00:13

Thinking about wriggler number two. How long would you leave it and why?

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OrlaGuerin · 29/07/2006 00:15

Wasn't planned but was 2 years - hard work initially but a doddle now, comparatively (5 and 3).

Sparkler1 · 29/07/2006 00:18

Two and a half years between my two - I think it's a really nice gap. I was really pleased to have dd1 at home for a few months before she was due to start preschool after dd2 was born. Have had friends who have had number 2 babies and have sent their first child to playschool straight away - first child has had problems letting go of mum as they feel left out.

flannelettepyjamas · 29/07/2006 00:20

DD is 14 months and I'm 5 weeks pregnant.
Planned this age gap as I feel it's given me and my body time to recover, time to spend with DD alone before the mayhem of adding number 2. And there won't be a huge age gap between them. I'm very close to my sister and we have a similar age gap between us. Perhaps subconsciously I'm trying to replicate this although you obviously can't predict personalities or the possibility that they may or may not actually like each other anyway.
Also I'm 37 so I don't have the luxury of waiting around, especially if we decide to go for 3.

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foundintranslation · 29/07/2006 00:22

We stopped using contraception (though were not 'trying' as such) when ds was 11 months. I got pg last month but sadly miscarried.

foundintranslation · 29/07/2006 00:22

(he is 14 months now btw)

LieselVonTrapp · 29/07/2006 00:34

It took five years of trying for DD who is now 5, have been trying ever since for second wriggler, I have never used contraception. I did lose a baby two years ago.

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WriggleJiggle · 29/07/2006 18:30

I was thinking of number two wriggler arriving when wriggler one is 1yr 3mths. What age do ch start walking? I think I'd like her to be walking first.

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nicnack2 · 29/07/2006 18:33

ds1 was 2.7 when ds2 was born. would have liked smaller gap as would have liked to have another

intergalacticwalrus · 29/07/2006 18:36

DS will be almost 21 months when this baby arrives in Sept. Hopefully, it will be an ok age gap (not sure how I'll cope, but there you go)

As for walking, it's hard to say. DS was walking at 9 months, but my friends DD was 20 months, so you never know and it's hard to predict really.

mousiemousie · 29/07/2006 18:45

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100Vicki · 29/07/2006 19:06

We decided that a 2 year age gap would be ideal but started trying a few months early in case it took a while. I got pregnant straight away so there'll be a 21 month gap between my ds and the new lo.

It is difficult already thinking about having to get ds out of his cot so it's ready for the baby and whether or not to buy a double buggy. Think we'll have our work cut out for us for the next few years!!

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WriggleJiggle · 30/07/2006 00:02

My god - a double buggy?!!! Hadn't thought of that one, and there's NO WAY I want to have both children in a buggy - can't think of a worse pain. What age can you throw them out of their chariots?

Just realising there's so much I don't know about the developmental ages and stuff . Useless mother.

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cataloguequeen · 30/07/2006 00:08

18 months between them not planned no 2 was a 'Surprise' baby hard at first but now I quite like it!!

18 months between me and my sisters pretty cool we're good friends very close did everything together as a pack!!...did fight alot though!!

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psychomum5 · 30/07/2006 00:27

well I have....

22mths between DD1 and DD2

34mths between DD2 and DD3

17mths between DD3 and DS1

26mths between DS1 and DS2

best gap for me was between DD2 and DD3, so I fell for DD3 just about on DD2's birthday!

best gap for them all to play was the shortest ones, as DD1 and DD2 are like twins at times (when not too hormonal), and then again DD3 and DS1 are also very very close.

DS2 tends to be close to only me+(I love him really), and so I wish hugely that I hadn't been so poorly having him that we felt unable (literally almost lost me and him...I had to be rescusistated at one point), to go for no.6...sooooo wish I had no.6!!

anyhoo.....now got 12yr,10yr,7yr,6yr and 4yr olds and they all (most of the time), play wonderfully together.
and if one has annoyed, there is always another playmate. for me that is a huge reason for going for them close....they (In my experience) get on better the closer they are. Does make it hard work as a mum, but as they get older and so get more independant, it reaps the benefits.

psychomum5 · 30/07/2006 00:31

ooh...and I come from a family (well....tis all in fact half...no whole siblings at all), where I was in the middle and on my own.

half brother 14yrs older

half sister 11yrs older

half brother 4yrs younger

half brother 3yrs younger

half brother 22yrs younger

made for a lonely childhood, especially as all the younger siblings didn't live with me. in one family I was the youngest, in other was the eldest, and so never really fitted in anywhere.

I am gueesing that is why I am now the proud mum of many, all close!!!!

psychomum5 · 30/07/2006 00:32

noooo....half brother 8 yrs younger, not 3!!

LieselVonTrapp · 30/07/2006 00:34

Sally Strawberry
So glad to hear you say that as Ive been really worried about my five year age gap. Although now I think about it there is 5 years between me and dh - buts thats not really the same is it.

cataloguequeen · 30/07/2006 00:46

5 years between my dh and his sister and didn't affect their relationship... very close

flannelettepyjamas · 30/07/2006 07:52

Psychomum, your list is like one of those brain teasers:
If sally runs faster than john and jane runs faster than tom and tom runs faster than olive and sally runs slower than 1/2 of the other children.... who wins the race?
type thing
I know what I mean anyway!

Miaou · 30/07/2006 08:15

I've got 17 months between dd1 and dd2 - worked brilliantly for me. Would have liked the same age gap between ds and the next one but it was not to be - he is 1 next week. We have been ttc since ds was 5 months.

Btw if you don't want to have a double buggy then don't even think of having another one until no. 1 is at least 2.5 or 3! Dd2 was 2.5 when we got rid of her buggy but she was a particularly good walker.

saadia · 30/07/2006 08:16

Ds1 is 2yrs 2mths older than ds2. Ds1 had no jealousy issues when ds2 came along and they play together (and fight together) really well.

spangles · 30/07/2006 08:28

3 and half yr gap between DS1 & DS2.. I wanted them close together so started trying for number 2 when number 1 was 4 mths old but it didnt go to plan as I had 2 MCs and took ages to conceive.
Was still BF DS2 who was 10 mths old when I cot PG with DD1 so there is a 19 mth gap between DS2 and DD1. Its hard work but we love it

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