What would you do? Advice please!

[ozmum23]

Dear All

To make a long story short, my DS2 is enrolled to attend pre school this year. I found out from the school that his teacher will be this awful teacher that my DS1 had way back in 2010 in year 1. This teacher was the opposite of caring and fair and good teacher.

This is my dilemma. That same teacher was demoted in 2012 and was no longer a class teacher. She became an occasional teacher. DH thinks that we should give her a chance. He thinks that she has possibly learnt her lesson and is possibly now a good and kind teacher. He thinks we should give her another chance.

My thinking is that a leopard doesn't change her spots! My feeling is to enrol DS2 in another pre school.

Btw, the school has a one term notice policy. This means that if DS2 doesn't attend term 1, we are still up for the fees.

FYI, we are not in the UK, thus the different school terms.

Thank you for reading this far!

Can you arrange a taster or trial session? If you can, you could spend an hour of so in the classroom and get a better feel for the place and how the teacher manages the children.

I would change preschools. Demotion and retraining might have improved her classroom practice,but they won't have changed her nature. At preschool level being kind and nurturing is the most important thing.

If you are already bound to pay fees for the first term:
-can you speak to someone at the preschool about your concerns?

• send your child and at the first hint of seeing the same issues you experienced last time, raise it and demand reassurance.

Can you explain more about incidents with the teacher/your son

onesiegoddess this teacher shouts and belittle
the children in her class. Also I should say she only
does that to the boys. She loves the girls and they
can do no wrong. DS1 became mute in her class
and his school work suffered. He didn't say anything
to me at the time and I should have started asking
questions when his reading went backwards.
Looking back it was clear as day what happened especially
as 3 other boys in his class left the school. Also 2 other boys would cry and scream at drop off! This was in year 1 and parents thought the boys were just suffering from
separation anxiety.

shoom I didn't mention that I have already spoken to the principal and he refused to accommodate my son. I requested that he transfer to the other class which has a lovely teacher. He prob worries that other mums would ask the same!

wearesix i know this school v well as my older child went there for 3 years. It's just this particular teacher that's awful.

DS2 is a happy and confident boy. He loves going to school and I don't want that to change! Well it might when he's older lol

soloman that's my gut feel. I don't see how she can change. The best that can happen will be that my son will be ignored.

I appreciate all your opinions! Early school years has a lot of influence on how a child.

So confused but sometimes I just want to go with my gut feel.

You may get more responses if you try another area of the forum, maybe the education area. It seems quiet here and this is really important.

The teacher sounds awful and it doesn't seem like putting her in charge of younger children would change anything. Maybe if you keep annoying the head about this, they'll give in.

I'd move him and did move my ds2 before he started though for completely different reasons the preschool he was due to attend also have a 1 term policy but he never attended any sessions and they had received a substantial deposit therefor that covers this and as long as u give them enough notice and they can fill the space I don't c y they should argue it tbh. Appreciate ur not in uk so don't know the rules where u r but worth a try?

U obv don't feel comfortable sending him u won't relax while he's there so don't send him find him somewhere that u r both happy with and u think he will get the most out of. He's ur child at the end of the day and u will know what is best for him good luck x

mum ur right, I do know what's best for him.
I am happy to hear that I am not the only mum
to pull child out of school at v short notice!
School term 1 starts in a couple of weeks and I
have already been in contact with a couple of other preschools that has come highly recommended by friends.

shoom i agree with u that I need to get this right!
I have already posted in education section of mumsnet n got
no replies.

I would go with your gut feeling. There is no reason why she may have changed and she could be just as horrible as she used to be. Your child is so young and needs to be with a teacher who is caring and kind not one who could be chipping away at him day after day.

dolly thank you for replying.
That's my gut feel and yes I will listen to it. Also DS1 said to me not to subject DS2 to what he had to go through!