yelling at your child

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Is there anyone out there that can honestly say they don't ever shout at their kids? Just had a hellish afternoon with baby (well 1 yr old) refusing to nap but obviously knackered, and 3 yr old sabotaging every attempt I try to make to get baby to sleep by screaming as I try to take baby upstairs and demanding "i want mummy now". He wouldn't let me leave the room for a second, although I assured him I'd be back in a few mins. Of course, baby didn't nap but was very cranky all afternoon as I had to comfort him and couldn't really spend much time with 3 yr old! Now feel horribly guilty for shouting at him, I know it achieves nothing but lets me release steam ..... but the guilt after it is awful.

I know none of us like to admit that we yell occasionally but really how is it possible not to sometimes...?

I shout. Probably daily in a bad week or at least stresshy raised voice at least.

I'm not proud of it and I'd like to be one of those parents who don't shout but I don't imagine I'm the only one.

I do shout. Not badly because I can't shout without hurting my throat. I do apologise afterwards and explain that when we are running late for school/hospital/dentist etc it does stress mummy out and I can be nice if we are on time which means not having to ask a million times to get coats and shoes on.

I try and think before shouting although haven't mastered it in every situation.

Why don't you stick the tv on for your 3 year old? There no way mine would have waited when I was napping the you fee one. Don't make life harder!

I try not to shout because I hate hearing the DCs copy my tone. It's quite an eye opener.

I go through shouty stages, they usually happen around the school holidays... I wonder why...

Rarely now, maybe once every 2-4 weeks, but I used to when dc were little. Lots of support available on Facebook through groups like Yell Free Challenge and Orange Rhino and anything to do with Peaceful Parenting. can't link now as in phone but will try to remember to come back tomorrow. Much happier and calmer house without the daily battles but it isn't easy and has taken about a year of practice to get this far.

You're right...none of us likes to admit it but I think most of us feel we're falling short of being the parent we had imagined we would be. I never thought I'd be a shouter but I am. I didn't with my first but once I was stretched with multiple kids and I became grumpy from sleep deprivation, I became a mum who yells at my kids when they push my buttons.

I too feel extraordinarily guilty once I calm down but I think that sometimes they shout at me too. We're only human and as long as they know you love them, you raising your voice to them isn't going to scar them for life.

I remember reading a description of a good mum as someone who 'didn't stay cross for long'...not someone who never got cross. It's tough with small kids...give yourself a break xx

I do always apologise and explain to him why I shouted/was angry. I mean I don't do it that often, probs every few weeks. I really don't want to be a parent that shouts all the time so I really try not to, but sometimes especially when you're on your own (hubby away at moment), yelling feels like the only way to maintain sanity.

I do always apologise and explain to him why I shouted/was angry. I mean I don't do it that often, probs every few weeks. I really don't want to be a parent that shouts all the time so I really try not to, but sometimes especially when you're on your own (hubby away at moment), yelling feels like the only way to maintain sanity.

I do always apologise and explain to him why I shouted/was angry. I mean I don't do it that often, probs every few weeks. I really don't want to be a parent that shouts all the time so I really try not to, but sometimes especially when you're on your own (hubby away at moment), yelling feels like the only way to maintain sanity.

I do always apologise and explain to him why I shouted/was angry. I mean I don't do it that often, probs every few weeks. I really don't want to be a parent that shouts all the time so I really try not to, but sometimes especially when you're on your own (hubby away at moment), yelling feels like the only way to maintain sanity.

I do always apologise and explain to him why I shouted/was angry. I mean I don't do it that often, probs every few weeks. I really don't want to be a parent that shouts all the time so I really try not to, but sometimes especially when you're on your own (hubby away at moment), yelling feels like the only way to maintain sanity.

I do always apologise and explain to him why I shouted/was angry. I mean I don't do it that often, probs every few weeks. I really don't want to be a parent that shouts all the time so I really try not to, but sometimes especially when you're on your own (hubby away at moment), yelling feels like the only way to maintain sanity.

Sometimes I do, although I do say sorry.

Really didn't post that 6 times, don't know what

Really didn't post that 6 times, don't know what

Ha, do you go on like that at them, too, OP? Anyway, I shout, but like you apologise. I also manage to stick to the "rules" of non-violent communication, though it seems laughable to call my full decibel ranting "non-violent". I also try to name what is happening for me, and model self-soothing strategies because I comfort myself with the thought that my children need me to model getting through being overwhelmed, so it's actually useful for them to see me experience anger etc. then get a grip. This usually transpires as me yelling, "I VERY CROSS RIGHT NOW! PERHAPS I WILL TAKE SOME DEEP BREATHS AND CALM DOWN!" Or something equally as ridiculous, which at least gives added incentive to the calming thing as I usually feel very embarrassed by my so-called 'parenting' at volume.

I shout more than I would like but in my defence ds1 has moderate hearing loss and often I have my head in the oven and he's upstairs bawling at me or he will run too far ahead when we r out or get close to the road and I do have to shout quite loud for him to hear me :( he also hates scho so mornings r a complete nightmare and normally involve by thurs/fri shouting to get him dressed & in the car. ds2 is 3 doesn't understand big bro can't hear v well thinks it's the done thing and is hilarious to ignore pretty much everything mummy says and poor dd is always so placid. I'm really looking forward to ds1 having grommets I hate shouting he's 4.5 and been like this his whole life and I'm looking forward to being able to talk to him properly without having to make sure he can lip read or me shout

But op ur scenario with 3 yr disturbing 1 yr old naps happens a lot in my house ds2 knows just when to fly in screaming he NEEDS a biscuit/chocolate/spiderman suit/insert other random thing that comes in to his head here and disturb dd just as she's about to nod off which leaves me with grumpy dd and whingey ds2. Have u got a sling? They save my sanity on a daily basis :)

I shout occasionally. If I do shout I apologise. I really dont want to get into a shouty relationship with my kids. I can visualise life with shouty teenagers!

It is hard to stay calm sometimes. I tend to imagine I'm being recorded and being watched. Or sometimes I send the child to his bedroom and sit and have a nice cup of tea and put my feet up. Sometimes I accept we are late and decide not to stress about it. Sometimes I take myself off into another room.

i never used to be a shouter until i had kids. its got louder and ie becoming more frequent. sometime my house is like q shouting match, both my boys 8 & nearly 10 copies me. i know i should change but sometimes is like an impulse. 9 out of 10 times they don't listen and i end up shouting. like now, they're still up talking and comes tomorrow i need to raise my voice to be heard. we just can't win.