Year 5 (9 and 10 year olds) and Call of Duty

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DS is very keen to play Call of Duty or a similar game who's name I forget as 'everyone' at school plays them. He has been bullied a lot at school for being babyish and this is the latest 'target'.

I had assumed it was one or two kids with older teenage brothers who were playing this type of game as they are 18 rated. However I went to a school event with DS and discovered it really isn't 1 or 2, of the 12 children there 10 of them definitely played this game. (1 I am not sure as was v quiet, and DS doesn't.)

I have been trying to work out ways for DS to fit in more at school to make his life easier, but I am not going to relent on this as I do not think these games are suitable for him. But I understand how difficult it is for him trying to fit in instead of being picked on, and now this game has become the main topic of conversation (presumably lots of them got it/a console for Christmas hence the obsession now) and he can't join in.

I have had a look at the website for the people who classify games, but wonder if anyone can point me to any articles about the effects of playing these games on small developing brains so I can show DS to show him why I feel as I do?

Also can you tell me are we really in the minority everywhere with not letting DS play these, or is it just our school? And if your similar age children do play these sort of games - could you tell me why you think they are ok? (Genuine question not being snarky!)

Those of you with AS DCS do you think it's the 'obsession' thing more than the 'need for completion' thing that causes so many issues around the gadgets?
It sure is one way to calm my ds down when he's heading for a meltdown or climbing the walls. . but then once he's on a game I have a devil of a job getting him of without an even more violent outburst.

Pictures - veggie Percy pigs from m and s are your friend then.
9? Shocking.

I don't know - I'm still learning, it's taken a while, lots of battles with the authorities & me finally giving in & paying for a private ed psych who we see next month to get close to a dx

Prior to Minecraft it was an obsession with Pokemon ds games & cards and before that Thomas the tank so I dontvthunkbits just the electronics thing.

Veggie? Last time I lo

Last time I looked at Xmas Percy contained actual Percy.

He loved nerf too by the way.

We don't have any issues with coming off now after almost a year of using an xbox, we were told not to allow extra time to finish stuff and just to switch it off when his time was up. I've set the timer now for x per day, and he knows to manage his time and not to ask. It's actually worked really well.
I don't know why he likes gaming so much though, but it does seen to be a 'thing'

We've found giving a 10 min, then 5 min warning that his time is almost up works well.

Pictures, definitely veggie Percy pigs available. Mine are vegetarians and were thrilled with them. They have green ears.

Yes, my name came from the huge collection of orange weaponry necessary in a house full of boys!

Will look out for them. Haven't got an m & a in town anymore but there's one in the next town.

I've just booked him a nerf battle birthday party at a forest school place he goes to sometimes.

Cool! Mine would love that. Don't envy you picking up all the teeny foam bullets

I've tried the count down too. It really only works if the happens to coincide with him getting to the end of a level. If not, we have a terrible time if we insist his time is up. It's so hard.
Ds2 is such an easy child in comparison.

Can you let him complete x number of levels instead? Or is that too long?

Red squirrel - thanks

It can go on and on and he seems to be able to engineer draws in fifa so that extra time and v then penalties are needed.
aaargh.

The ones I know who Play it at primary are pretty much normal little boys from caring families. The teacher did say she felt it showed who played these games in their writing etc though. Did hate the T bagging that used to go on in the playground.

T bagging hope that's a typo

That's what i thought. Although i only know what it is because ds asked me having heard it in the playground,I didn't know so googled it.
Boy, did I get a shock.

Blimey. Will interrogate ds later

My dcs know they are not playing COD, WOW, GTA etc in our house. They have never asked to either. I have watched clips of COD on YouTube to find out what it was, and it was sickening, violent, meaningless-just my idea of hell.

Dd15 has never shown an interest, but ds13 has played it occasionally at friend's houses-and I don't object to that. He isn't bullied about it, most children can accept that different families have different ways of living.

I also wonder about the younger siblings of children on these games-are three and four year olds watching on whilst their older siblings are playing the 18 cert games?

T bagging? Surely not. I've just googled it and if that is going on in the playground then at our school it would be expulsion time.

Good on you OP.
My ds is only 7 but I dread the "not fitting in" because I don't allow him to watch or play things that have not been rated for his age. No problems just yet, but I wonder what will happen when he gets to y5. I also dread the playdates, when the time comes, I will need to inform the hosting parent that I don't allow my child to play xyz, but then he might not be welcome back!

A little boy in his class has watched the james bond films, he wants to watch them, I've explained that they are for older children and he accepts it.

we have the same problem with ds 10, he wants gta5 because all his friends have it.