HI, bit of a long story really my ds1 who is nearly 6 (yr1) has had this kind of love/hate relationship with another boy since nursery 1 minute they are best of friends next minute falling out i think they are both very similar in personalities which teacher thinks is part of the problem.
It started off in nursery really my ds complaining about him pushing him and snatching, when brought up with nursery they told me it was pretty much both of them in the wrong. Towards the end of nursery his mum had a word with me asking me if i could ask my son not to keep pushing hers. We had a little chat and i went and spoke to my ds and he promised he would be a bit calmer round other children. That was end of it until reception.
After returning to school to reception in sept 2012 there was incidents everyday where my ds was crying about this boy been horible to him, he has a wripped coat and kept getting scratches, i was seeing the teacher every morning which tbh she was a bit of a wet blanket and it was like she wasnt taking anything in i was saying. In the second half of winter term it seems they had some sort of fight both boys had visible marks on their face, they both had to see the head and i was asked to see him too. We had a long talk and the head agreed that the boys should be seperated as much as possible, the boys mum apparently had been told exactly the same as me... I was happy with the heads decision on it and he was really nice about it. But the next morning i was collared by the mother who had a right go at me got called every name under the son and had a load of abuse over my parenting. As much as i tried not retaliating i couldnt help it and told her to get out of my face and saiud a naughty word to her. I made a complaint about her anyway but unfortunately not much can be done about parents behaviour.
After this there was no trouble with the boys at all, ive just had to put up with dirty looks off this mother and snide comments with the other mums.. Everything was fine again until just before summer term when the boys seemingly became "best friends" but that didnt last long and last week of term fell out everyday and teacher reported that they had been fighting again which again was dealt with by school and my ds was dealt with at home.
So since september there ahas been a number of incidents again 1 day they are best friends next day enemys and before christmas i had to make a complaint about the boy stealing his lunch which as resulted in the boys been kept apart, seems ok atm
BUT its his bloody mother im sick of snide comments off her all the time, telling her son to stay away from "that naughty boy" in the play ground this morning. Teachers have said all the way through this that the boys are as bad as each other. Ive even had another mum tell me shes been talking about me to other mums but they just think shes after attention... Obviously i try ignore and stay away from her but im in the school playgroud i shouldnt bloody have to. To make matters worse shes got a younger ds who im guessing is the same age as dd1 so i bet im going to have to put up with it a whole lot longer
Anyone got any tips for me?