Long story short....me and my sons father split, my decision, he didn't like it, (he had controlled me and run my into the ground) he said he would take my child, make my family hate me and leave me with no friends. He did just that. For 2 years.
That's just filling you in on why what happened next happened.
4 months ago I was stopped completely from seeing my son, he started school (he's 4) his father moved in with his girlfriend and my son stopped seeing all my family he was close with.
Because of this DS's behaviour spiralled. He was pushed out, new girlfriend and her daughter became the centre of attention, DS wasn't involved in any part of that family, making him act out, wet himself, destroy things for attention, be naughty. I recall 1 incident, DS told us he had wet himself one day and his Daddy made him sleep in the Bath. It became that serious social services, CAFCASS and the NSPCC are now involved in his life because his Dad rang them to 'sort DS out'.
Cutting this down they saw it fit DS came to me, after 2 years of hell my boy returned to me. A shadow of his former self, broken and scared.
It's been 2 months now. He is such a happy boy again, wanting for nothing, well behaved, loved. His father on the other hand hasn't made any effort, he had him one for what was suppose to be 2 hours, it turned into 10 minutes as DS was that scared he wet himself and cried until I came ro his rescue. Christmas has gone, it was magical, my family all reunited. His father asked to have him on boxing day Aslong as I took DS to him, we love over 5 miles apart. I said no, he should make the journey to see him at Christmas, so he just ignored my messages and he never saw him.
Now I am getting abuse after abuse from him, making up lies that involve my son, CAFCASS and benefits.
He has 2 other children he isn't allowed to see because again of reasons to do with social services.
I'm torn between what to so for the best. My son hadn't indicated once that he misses his Dad, instead begs me not to see him, has panic attacks over 'the brown house' (where his Dad lives) and he won't accept any contact with his father.
I have a partner who has been in DS life for 3 years so they both love each other dearly. Both of them now 2peas in a pod. So I know he has stability at home.
Do I stop all contact with his father for now? His Dad threatens me about if I stop him seeing DS but that spurs me on even more, it's one thing to talk to me the way you do, but to have done whatever he did to make his own son fear him so much.
I am scared of his Dad, he is a bully, a nasty controlling bully. But I know that's not what DS needs in his life.
What's your opinions, what would you do if you where me?
Sorry to bore your with the length of my post lol.
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