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Toddler will only sleep with the baby!!

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yummymumtobe · 12/01/2014 09:35

We have dd (2.5) and ds (4months). Dd used to be a dream sleeper and has always settled herself at night. Moving into a toddler bed was a nightmare as she kept getting out over and over and over...one night she kept saying she wanted to sleep in baby's room and so we let her sleep on the sofabed in there (it's very low so safe etc). Now she won't sleep anywhere else and screams the house down if we try and put her to bed in her own bedroom. It sort of works ok and I bf baby while toddler drinks milk and we read a story. Baby simply settles himself to sleep when I put him down. If toddler is getting up it seems not to disturb him too much at bedtime, but it's during the night that it's a problem. Toddler sometimes wakes and in the past we left it for 10 mins and she generally went back to sleep. Now we darent leave her in case she wakes him up so have started giving her milk to comfort her to sleep. Worried she's drinking too much milk now! When she doesn't have nappy at night this will be a nightmare as she'll need to wee all night!
So my question generally is, shall I try and get her back into her own room? Or just let it happen and let them share and see how we fare as baby gets older? For now he is sleeping through so generally they are both in bed 7 till 7.

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mumofboyo · 12/01/2014 14:57

In all honesty, I'd leave her where she's happiest for now. If she wakes and cries in the night, does this definitely wake the baby? Try it and see what happens (do it on a night when both of you are there and have nothing much to do the following morning!) because you might find that the baby stirs but stays asleep.

yummymumtobe · 12/01/2014 15:23

We don't really let her cry for any amount of time in the night as we're so worried about him waking. Maybe we should try it and see as you say.

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Keepthechangeyoufilthyanimal · 12/01/2014 15:29

Could you put her toddler bed in the baby's room for now instead if the sofa bed?

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redsquareyellowsquare · 12/01/2014 15:37

Do you count it as "sleeping through" when the toddler wakes up crying?

Not trying to be antagonistic, i've just always wondered about other people's definitions as I'm surprised at the number of "sleeping-through" children there are in the world when mine is so bad!!!

yummymumtobe · 12/01/2014 16:11

Haven't put her bed in there as it's seems a bit too 'final' rather than it being a treat for her for now to sleep in there. I suppose maybe if her actual bed was in there she may feel a bit more secure and comfy. Him sleeping through means sleeping from his dream feed (at 10.30) until the morning, ie 7 or 8.

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SaltyandSweet · 12/01/2014 17:06

Mine are 4 and 2 now but they've slept in the same room since DS2 was around 3 months old. They may well wake each other with their individual night noises (my 4 year old has always talked in his sleep!) and crying etc, but ime they adjust to each other very, very quickly. I'd continue your usual routine (i.e. leaving to self settle if that's what you used to do) and they will adapt. If your two will be sharing a room for awhile, it might be worth a few disrupted nights now.

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yummymumtobe · 12/01/2014 20:56

The problem we have is that toddler doesn't really settle to sleep in the way she used to. Used to be milk and story, kiss, sleep! So we're in and out for ages and end up taking baby's Moses basket out then she screams for him to be put back! She can't understand he's gone because she's noisy.

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