struggling with sleep deprivation.

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Hi.
My ten month old is going through a horrible patch of sleep, or rather less sleep. She's waking up about 4 times a night and needs a breastfeed to go back to sleep. If my husband goes into her she screams. She is also napping less, 30-40 mins at a time, 2 times a day, and waking up still grumpy and tired.
I'm really struggling. I have a demanding toddler and my husband works long hours, 5 days a week, and is often away on Saturday visiting his mother. Does any one have any tips for me? I find myself very short tempered and impatient.

Thanks

Not much advice but your not alone DS is cutting his molars and we haven't slept well for weeks :( Do you have anyone who can help? I had a friend who had a childminder for 3 hours a week so she could get a break that might be an idea? Your husband could also take the kids when he visits his mother maybe? Even if you don't sleep just the freedom to sit on the couch and watch telly can do wonders.

DS has never been a good sleeper but things did get better when I night weaned him at about 11 months it took 3 nights of him screaming the house down but after that he started sleeping until about 5am every morning then a bottle and back to sleep apart from being ill or teething then he can be up more.

Thanks. Yes would dearly love a day to sit on the sofa and watch tv by myself but dd is breastfed and prob won't stand to be away from me for that long. Might consider it in a couple months tho, good idea.
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Thanks. Yes would dearly love a day to sit on the sofa and watch tv by myself but dd is breastfed and prob won't stand to be away from me for that long. Might consider it in a couple months tho, good idea.
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No advice, but i could have written your OP except eldest is just 4. i feel for you. It's so tough isnt it!? xxx

Ah bless you. Keep reminding yourself with the sleep issues that as with all things baby-related, "this too shall pass". Google wonder week 55 - might help reassure you to know that this is a phase. I can totally empathise - dd2 is 14 months and we went through that period of awful sleep, followed by a run of illnesses which also affected sleep. Her sleep did get better after those few weeks of seemingly up all the time. I have to admit I brought her into bed with me when she wouldn't settle. Dh is a surgeon and can't operate in a fug of sleep deprivation, so anything for a quick solution. It hasn't stopped her from self-settling though, and unless she is poorly she doesn't demand for me to bring her into the bed.

Can you all go to visit dh's mum? At least then you won't be on your own with the children again. If she isn't up to having you all there, you could go with them but take the kids out to a local cafe for a bit of a walk and a cookie? We share lie-ins at the weekends, which helps. And I have a dreadful coffee habit. Hope you can get through this tough phase and have two good sleepers soon!

Thank you all for your kind replies. Will try ro remember as I get up again and again tonight that this isn't forever!

Calpol, baby neurofen and the knowledge that this shall pass.
It's hell. I have a bad sleeper made worse when teething. You have my full sympathy. Now dd is over 1 she does go for odd days with my parents and those days of sleeping when I'm tired are pure gold.

Do you cosleep? Would you? It's the only way I got through the worst of ds's night waking. I could feed lying down so snooze and sometimes if he woke up whinging a hand on his tummy was enough to remind him I was there and go back to sleep.

One of my friends gave up on beds completely when she had her second. She just had a 'sleep room' with lots of mattresses on the floor and everyone just slept where they crashed out. I'll consider it when no2 turns up!

Whatever you decide, you have my utmost sympathies. This too will pass...

I tried cosleeping but she didn't settle in our bed, was too interested all around.
Another restless night....