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5 month old blues

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Christelle2207 · 09/01/2014 17:59

I adore my 5mo DS. BUT I am so pissed off with how well he and I are not coping compared to other mums and 5 mo babies I know in RL.
So my mummy "friends" are immaculately turned out with fab hair and make up. I look like death most of the time, have hair falling out all over the place and haven't dressed for anything other than comfort since my son was born. They also have immaculate homes (wtf?) And seem to get things on their to-do list generally done.
I should add that I know we all found the first few weeks difficult but it seems they have found their mummy feet rather more easily.
DS' sleep is crap. Better than it was but he wakes four times in a good night, sometimes roughly hourly. Never sleeps more than 3.5 hours in a row. All other 5mo babies sleep 12-14h without waking it seems.
He also virtually never naps, unless in car or pram which I don't think counts as he wakes as soon as we stop. I may occasionally get him down for 40 mins at lunchtime but it can take 2 h of boob/singing/rocking/shushing to get there so not convinced it's worth the effort.

Though I'm lucky he's rarely been ill he Grizzles and cries almost constantly at times and is perpetually unsettled.
I've got to the point that I don't think I want to meet up with mummy friends anymore as their babies always nap while mine Grizzles and I always have to leave early. I also have to hear how well they're doing.

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Tailtwister · 10/01/2014 18:55

Some babies are just harder work than others OP. 5 months is still really quite new (imo anyway) and how you are feeling is absolutely normal.

I was nowhere near together with either of mine at 5 months. Getting through the day was like trying to hit a moving target. What worked one day wouldn't work the next. I had friends who used to have these amazing routines going and were able to arrange their days knowing with complete certainly that their babies would sleep at specific times for decent lengths of time. Neither of mine were like that.

Mrsmummypenny · 10/01/2014 20:17

Personally I found the 4-7 months way harder than the newborn stage. My DD is now 9 months ans it's sooooo much better. Her sleep is still poor but she can entertain herself for a bit whilst I do jobs now. While it's exhausting in a different way as she is on the move it gets better as you can start to see their personalities and interact more.

I've also found other mummies lie. Their little ones might not be sleeping as well as they say, max factor foundation is like sleep in a bottle and they may only clean the room you see.

Sounds like you really love your LO. I'm sure you're doing an amazing job.

Christelle2207 · 12/01/2014 23:24

Thanks again for reminding me that I'm not alone. I think I'm going to spend this week trying to conquer the lunchtime nap thing as he does at least demonstrate some inclination to sleep (a bit) around 12.30pm. I do also believe daytime napping is the key to better nights. I guess we all have better and worse days- today my dh took him out so I could get on with housework (my choice!) and I feel happier now I have a slightly less messy house. And ds slept from
3am till 8 which is a record!

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