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Feel like utter crap - 7mo DD fell off our bed today :(

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PrincessChick · 09/01/2014 16:19

Just that really. She will only nap on our bed after me feeding her lying down. I left her for a minute to grab something from downstairs in which time she'd rolled over and fallen out of bed. I was on the bottom step when I heard the thud. DH came straight home. Called GP. She is fine bar a nasty bruise on her head.

I KNOW I shouldn't have left her. I feel like an utter twat. It's still haunting me and I haven't stopped feeling shaky for 4 hours.

Not sure why I've posted. Just feel awful.

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Greentoothbrush · 09/01/2014 16:25

Awww don't feel awful... we all do it!

My first fell off the baby changing unit. God did I panic. Thing is she was fine! Not a mark on her, bloody lucky. Their heads are very strong and at 7months she will have stronger neck muscles.
Don't worry too much, and don't beat yourself up. If you were a bad Mother you wouldn't give a toss and wouldn't be posting out of guilt. You sound like a great Mummy who loves her daughter very much x

ButThereAgain · 09/01/2014 16:28

Please don't feel bad! I bet most of us have done something like this. I know I have! Toddler son bounced right off bed and thumped nose on bedside cabinet, and twice DH or I picked up moses basket badly so handles came open as we lifted from floor and baby tumbled out! Our children are strapping teens now and came to no harm.

Oblomov · 09/01/2014 16:31

Stop giving yourself such a hard time. I have done worse. Was so busy telling ds1 off, in park, that forgot to strap ds2 into pushchair. Fell out onto concrete, huge lump. A&e.
Have a look at some if the old mn threads. People have gone a lot worse! Yours is minor. Please don't worry.

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Wuxiapian · 09/01/2014 16:32

Try not to feel too bad, OP.

My DS fell off the kitchen table when he was 5 months and I turned my back for a few seconds.

Accidents happen and he'll be fine.

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PrincessChick · 09/01/2014 16:33

Thanks greentoothbrush that's a really lovely thing to say.

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ScottishDiblet · 09/01/2014 16:35

I'm so sorry this happened. But it also happened to me and most of the mums I know. I called 111 and they and the out of hours gp spent more time assuring me it was a right of passage for all parents than they did checking my my daughter. As long as your baby is definitely ok - and it sounds as if she is - then the best thing you can do is give her lots of love and cuddles and be kind to yourself. My sister had the exact same experience and she told me that a day would come when I didn't even think about the accident, even though I felt like it would haunt me forever. And do you know, she is 100% right. I hadn't even thought about it in months. Sending hugs to you both. You are n

absentmindeddooooodles · 09/01/2014 16:35

Dont feel bad! It happens!

Poor ds had his head bounced off a door frame at 3 weeks old. Fell out the pram at 5 months. I cannot xount the nber of lumps bumps and bruises as he syarted walking. Hes fine!

Have a nice cuppa or glass of wine and lots of cuddlea. Honestly everyone I know has done it x

ScottishDiblet · 09/01/2014 16:35

*not a bad mummy. Just unlucky. X

mrsbug · 09/01/2014 16:36

Dd did the same thing, at about the same age.

I think you'd have trouble finding anyone on here whose DC haven't live and learn...

iloveweetos · 09/01/2014 16:37

This happened to me and my mum laughed when I told her (after asking if dd was fine) then told me that all 3 of us fell off things as babies and it gets worse as they get older. And she was right! Dd is a clumsy thing and is always falling over lol
Don't worry it's just the path of parenthood!

InTheRedCorner · 09/01/2014 16:40

Welcome to the club

I did exactly the same thing, I panicked and took her straight to the GP, called DH and made him meet me there.

I also shut DD3s fingers in a door and broke them.

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PrincessChick · 09/01/2014 16:57

So, as the gp said, these things are always worse for mums and it's just one of those things. Now I really do feel like a drama llama. But thank you all so much for reassuring me that this is just a rite of passage. I really didn't have a clue...

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snickers251 · 09/01/2014 17:03

Another one here ds fell off kitchen table at 5 months and you'd think id have learnt but dd fell or rather slipped out of high chair at 6 months after forgetting to strap her in.

My crying sobs were louder than the babies

RobinSparkles · 09/01/2014 17:20

Don't beat yourself up about it, honestly.

I don't know a single person that this hasn't happened to. DD1 rolled off our bed as a baby - the bad thing was that DH was on the bed with her!

I'm sure DD2 has rolled off stuff too. I probably didn't bother as much as she wasn't my PFB hence not remembering! :)

Lots of my friend's babies have done the same. They're quite resilient usually!

BusWanker · 09/01/2014 17:24

I agree with a previous poster look at the many threads about this and read the replies.
We have all done something similar.
Babies are tough.

HRMumness · 09/01/2014 17:28

My DD rolled off our bed while I was folding washing. I had run round to the side she was on as I could see she was about to do it, she rolled right past me as I went to grab her. I half caught her which meant she knocked her head on the bedside table. I was totally beside myself. She was perfectly fine.

Don't beat yourself up about it op.

emblosion · 09/01/2014 17:34

Nearly every baby I know has done similar. Its awful when it happens though.

to make you feel better, I looked up from feeding ds2 only to notice I'd neglected to close the gate to the kitchen and pfb was about to use the oven door as a step ladder to reach the work surface. As he stood on it the oven started to tip horrifyingly.

I leapt and ran like lighting to grab him, save oven and chastise pfb. Then as I turned to leave the kitchen I thwacked poor ds2's head on the doorframe. Sigh.

so, with failure to supervise toddler & enabling him to climb on oven plus inflicting head injury on baby I reckon I win the worst parent award. That was a trying day!

3bunnies · 09/01/2014 17:42

All three of mine fell off the bed and the sofa though dd2 did break her collar bone, however she could get injured in a cotton wool factory I recommend getting some arnica cream - most supermarkets and chemists have it. It may be too late for this episode but it is a wonder cream. If put on soon after then the next day there will be barely a mark. It has saved many an awkward question about the minor bumps and bruises of those early years!

findingherfeet · 09/01/2014 17:43

It's heart breaking but your little one is fine, much worse for mummy and you are not alone, my daughter fell of changing unit at same age..still makes me feel dreadful just thinking of it.....

TheGonnagle · 09/01/2014 17:50

Yep. Think it's a right of passage to be honest. You now get to spend the next 24 hours feeling like the worlds shittest parent and having random spasms of guilt. PLease take comfort that we've all done it. Dd rolled of the bed after I changed her and hit her head on the bedside table on the way past.
Be kind to yourself.

Misty9 · 09/01/2014 19:05

Don't worry, my 10mo fell down whole flight of stairs on my watch... i remember posting a very similar thread too! Trip to hospital and not a mark on him. As the doctor said, they bounce at that age! :)

SofiaAmes · 09/01/2014 19:08

I think you'd be hard pressed to find a parent who didn't have a child fall off a bed or a dressing table or something of the sort.
Ds was down the stairs twice before he was a year old and we even had stair gates at the top and bottom. He fell off a bed, chipped his first tooth before it was half way out, came home from the child minders on day 2 with a black eye because he'd tripped into the edge of the radiator. Some kids are just like that. But even dd who never has injuries, fell off a changing table when she was a baby.

Quintessentialmadonna · 09/01/2014 20:10

My dd fell off the bed at the same age. I ran to save and her and bashed my knee so hard it was swollen fo weeks.. My dd was unmarked! I didnt even notice my knee until later when the adrenilin and sobs (mine) had subsided! I only felt better when i told my mum , who replied 'oh yeh they are amways doing things like that, right i gotta go bye'.. I soon realised it was very common!

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