no mummy, no sleepy

[MumaBex]

Hello all,

My DD is now 9 months old and spends her days crawling, standing and walking with her walker. You would think by the time its came to the evening she would want to sleep, but alas this doesn't seem to be the case. She ends up passing out around midnight, is up again at around 3, then fully awake by 6.30. she will have a 30min-1hour nap when i walk ds to school, then another at 2.15 for the same amount of time. I might get 1 day in every 7 where she might have a 2 hour nap in the morning. She is also very clingy and wants to be able to see me at all times. Its safe to say that im starting to be pretty warn out.. Hubby says im a grumpy so and so all the time and we have started to argue quite often which just makes things worse.
We have tried the food, bath, bottle routine with no success. We spend the whole evening in her room, with the toys away and her in her cot and no talking, still no joy. she starts to drift off sometimes but then rolls over and stands up and it just starts all over again. Ive tried letting her cry and go back at timed intervals, thats not worked either.
If anyone has any suggestions that would be great.

Poor you. Ever likely you are tired and arguing. Has it been going on for long? Could it be the 9 month sleep regression?

Been going on for a good month now. We have had probably 2 nights where she has gone to sleep at 9, but thats that. Sounds like we are having the 9 month regression. the hubby thinks its ok to just keep her up until she passes out, but he is at work all day so it doesnt bother him.

What time do you out her down? If she's over tired she may be struggling to fall asleep. (And may explain some, not all, of the clingyness too). Have you tried putting her to bed earlier? Or "forcing" more naps to get her less tired eg by taking her for walk or putting her in the car? I do believe that often bad sleepers are made worse by their own tiredness and that doing whatever it takes (driving/walking/rocking/whatever) to force some sleep positions you better for sleep training a bit later when the child is less exhausted.

The 9 month sleep regression does cause havoc but afterwards hopefully you will see an improvement.

I don't have much advice about getting her to sleep.. with my son I put him in the pushchair/car to get him into a daytime routine and he was quite good at night. BUT I would often go to bed as soon as my dh came in from work. If I was getting up in the night (as often as you are) there is no way I'd stay awake until 12 and there is no need for both parents to be there (provided you've agreed the strategy on when your daughter goes to bed!)

No suggestions- just sympathy. We had horrendous sleep patterns at this age. Sleep regression, played a part, but the day she started walking unaided was the day she slept through. Hope you get some sleep soon!! Don't give up!