2.5 year gap between DCs?

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Does anyone have this? Is it good/does it work?
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Lots of my friends do - we currently have 7 sets of friends with one approx 3 year old and one approx 6 month old. This seems a very usual age gap, but I do think there's no such thing as a 'bad' age gap - I guess all gaps are better/worse for different reasons and at different times in the children's lives.

That would be ideal for me but I am going to start tttc in eight weeks time when baby is six months due to age and difficulties conceiving.

I think 2.5 years is great because you won't really need a double buggy. One will be nearly out of nappies and you can use all their stuff rather than two highchairs etc.

very good point Mrs Welly - I hate double buggies!

I have 2.5 yr gap between my 2 and it works really well.

I did have to have a double buggy though as I don't drive and walk everywhere.

When the baby is born, your toddler will seem massive

It's exactly the gap between DSIS and me, DM always said it was just right as I understood babies needs were different from mine.

Also means there's a big gap between birthdays.

DDs are three years apart and I have two parties to organise in a month which is expensive and stressful. Would be great if at least one was in the summer.

Two plus years is good here because it means DCs aren't in the same class. Lots of our rural schools combine years.

I have 2 years between dc and whilst it can be hard work, most days it's great. I've loved watching them become best friends .

I had planned for more like 2.5 between them but had real difficulties conceiving ds so decided to start ttc a bit earlier. Wouldn't you know it, nearly 3 years to fall pregnant with ds, took 1 month with dd!

That is my concern kneedeep. You must have been over the moon. I know two people with nearly for year age gaps they didn't plan for.

yes me too - 2.5 years would be better for taking work mat leave, but then what if I don't get pg instantly? Will be pissed off about wasted time...

I have a 2 and a half year gap and a 2 yrs and 2 months gap between my 3 DC's and I found it hard.
Being pregnant and looking after a young toddler was exhausting. And having a newborn and a toddler that wasn't quite old enough to do things properly for themselves and demanding your attention while your trying to breastfeed was hard.
I would have left a bigger gap looking back.

It was great, was really quite worried about ttc again after all the stress and misery first time around! I had an ectopic before ds so only had one tube . Dh and I were really just talking and wondering if we were ready, took a chance not for a second believing we'd get lucky!

Funnily enough, a week before my BFP we had talked ourselves down and decided to wait, just in case it happened quick! couldn't be happier now though!

Was coming on to post the same as cafe - I have 2 years 8 months and 2 years 7 months between my three.

Only a donkey falls over the same stone twice as my mother used to tell me

My DS1 was 2.4 when DS2 was born. It was hard work for the first 3 months or so as while DS1 was old enough to understand the changes, he wasn't necessarily emotionally able to communicate it IYSWIM. Having said that, I now think the age gap is ideal - they are now 4.9 and 2.5 and are very close. They are able to play with each other and get along very well. I think the close age gap has given them an added chance in being friends not just siblings, at least that's my hope. Practically, I did have a double buggy for about 5 months after DS2 was born but eldest was trained to walk everywhere during that time too and his seat in the buggy was only used if he was very tired or grumpy. Oh and depending how much help you'll have in the early months of DC2, I'd definitely try to get DC1 toilet trained at least in the day - I was on my own, no family nearby, and I found it hard with two in nappies and had to toilet train DS1 when DS2 was a newborn which was hard!!