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Help, have just hurt DC1

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elportodelgato · 27/12/2013 11:58

Feeling awful and need some advice and possibly a hand hold as DH is at work. The DC are both going a bit post-Christmas mental and I am trying to get the house sorted out for guests coming today so pretty busy and lots to do. I've bee telling them both to calm down all morning as I knew someone would end up getting hurt with all the bouncing around etc.

I was just tidying in the lounge when DC1 jumped on DC2 and head butted her on the nose. I turned around to see DC2 in tears and instinctively pulled DC1 off, and pushed her towards the door telling her to sit outside and calm down. I was comforting DC2 when I heard DC1 really howling on the stairs, so I go to check: as I pulled her off I managed to scratch her arm with my nails, 3 scratches on her arm, no blood, just grazed.

I feel so so sad and sorry, have been crying and apologising. She seems fine, after the initial shock had passed, but I can't believe I have left a mark on my baby Sad who is only 5.5. Have been trying to call DH but not picking up, I don't know what to do, I feel so ashamed. Can anyone give me any advice? I am totally against corporal punishment and would never hurt them

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Netguru · 27/12/2013 12:09

It was an accident - unlike the headbutt You've apologised. Unless you want to find a reason to beat yourself up, put it behind you

GodRestTEEMerryGenTEEmen · 27/12/2013 12:10

It was an accident. I've hurt my son worse than that.

Sounds like you all need to calm down, though.

MrsDavidBowie · 27/12/2013 12:13

Yes, calm down.
It was an accident, you've said sorry, she's fine.

The more you make a drama out of it, it will not be forgotten about.

You don't want to know the things I have done to the dcs.

Have a cup of tea and some chocolate.

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elportodelgato · 27/12/2013 12:42

Thank you, I got hold of DH on the phone and he more or less said the same as you, thanks for telling me to chill out, I needed that!

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PacificDingbat · 27/12/2013 12:44

Aw, she'll live.

Can you all get outside for half an hour? Let them go mental in the fresh air? Chances are they'll be calmer afterwards. And you'll be too Wink.

I feel your pain - 4 boys with cabin fever here. I might just force them out in the hurricane we've got...

SilverApples · 27/12/2013 12:48

Accident, no guilt involved.
Either go out with them and let them run off some chocolate-powered Christmas excess, or put them in thrall to the TV with a couple of DVDs.
Then think very carefully about what actually needs doing for guests, and which part is flap and fuss. Do the important bits.

thornrose · 27/12/2013 12:48

She's probably howling at the injustice of being told off and is angry that her dsis is being comforted. Grin

Don't give it another thought, have a Brew

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 27/12/2013 14:33

In the nicest possible way - get a grip. You accidentally scratched her while removing her from the situation, there was absolutely no need for you to cry & feel ashamed, that's a total over reaction, are you pregnant/due your period? Her reaction was totally over the top too and a 'I've been told off' wail, best ignored tbh. The most I would have said would have been 'Sorry you got scratched by accident, but if you had done as you were told and stopped jumping around it wouldn't have happened, now stop that hidious noise'.

Have a nice cup of tea and forget about it.

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