New baby and annoyed with sister who likes to come over and take naps!

[Mamabear12]

Just a rant really....but so annoyed with my sister who has come over a few times and ends up taking two hour naps!!! She is older then me, has no kids!! I've got a 22 month and a 8 week newborn! I wake up 3 to 4 times a night bc of my newborn! I'm tired! She can sleep as much as she wants all weekend long, gets plenty of sleeps at night and yet, comes over and after eating lunch that I made, goes to sleep!!! Today, I said I've been up 4 times last night and tired, no napping now! And she goes "ur the one who decided to have kids!" okay, fair enough, but don't come to my house to take naps, when I'm so exhausted as it is! Oh and leave dirty dishes for me to clean up and put away as well! Argghhh! Should I say something? How would I bring this up? I mean, I understand it's my notice to have kids and be tired etc. but if she wants to take naps, do it at her own house and not at mine! ESP when I'm so sleep deprived and not nice to rub it in about getting all this sleep!

An 8 week old and your sister lets you make her lunch and clear up afterwards while she naps? Selfish cow. I would say to her next time she wants to come round that you're happy for her to visit but could she bring some lunch with her rather than always expecting you to make it.

It's awkward but if she insists on napping when it's so frustrating you will have to be straight with her and say that it's not fair to come round and sleep when you are waking so often in the night. If she's coming to see your baby, ask her straight if she would mind the baby for an hour or two to allow you a nap/bath in peace.

You don't know how bad it feels to be sleep deprived until you've been through it. She probably thinks you might be a bit tired but are fine.

I even forgot what it was like when my sister had her 2nd baby 6 years after I had my DS. I would visit her and help out a bit but I'd still let her do lunch/dinner etc without thinking about it. I then had my DTwins - bless my sister she remembered and had us over, helped out and even stayed over my house one night and did the night feeds.

Tell her that you love seeing her but are feeling far to tired to have a greedy sleeper in the house and would she mind keeping all her sleep a secret because the most peace you are currently getting is micro sleep when you blink.

micro sleep when you blink

I love it! That's a pretty damn good description of general daily life now!

Don't let the lazy mare in!

mine did this, still does...i have no solution op but it is bloody rude

Grow a pair or strap some on and talk to her about her incredible selfishness. If she wants to nap, fine, but she needs to do it at home not at your house after taking advantage of your hospitality again! It's lovely entertaining people, but if it's on a regular basis then it stops being entertainment and starts to become a chore if that person doesn't do something for you in return. Either stop feeding her or pass her the baby before she gets a chance to head for a bed and get to a bed yourself!

When we had DS, for the first few months people were either guests or help.

Guests were very understanding, didn't stay long, cuddled DS a bit, appreciated a coffee and biscuit and didn't make a mess.

People who came to help mucked in and did anything they could / felt would help.

She sounds like a guest who overstays her welcome every time.

The whole "you chose to have kids" would annoy me intensely. It's insensitive and she is acting like a third child for you to look after. Don't ask her back again until you're ready to have guests for longer.

My mum does this when she comes to 'help' and doesn't get up until 9am - I have a 27month old and 10 week old. It drives me insane

Yea, it's just crazy. I don't understand! She could at least offer to help a little or at least don't friggin nap at my place!! If she does this again I will say something.

it's kinda like eating a chocolate bar or dirty big burger in front of somebody who is starving and not offering them any. It's hard enough being sleep deprived without somebody dangling their over abundance of sleep in front of you. I think you were very restrained not to let her fall asleep and then douse her with a bucket of ice water...... sorry, I am still sleep deprived 8 months in and have found it the hardest thing that I have ever been through and has nearly broken me. She sounds quite selfish and immature, especially the comment about you being the one that decided to have kids. I would remember that one for if she ever decides to have kids herself and remind her of it......hopefully she gets a bit more empathy once you talk to her......

It's kind of weird to nap while visiting people anyway never mind someone who's shattered.

I would have punched my sister for doing that infact when DS was at his worst (7 times a night) I seen a man dosing on the bus and i just wanted to wake him up out of badness just because I didn't see why he should have been able to sleep on the bus when I couldn't!! bit of a moment of madness that one

Why the hell are you making lunch for her? Take a leaf out of Nancy Reagan's book and Just Say No. Don't invite her to the house, don't make lunch. No lunch - no dishes.