Controlled crying at this moment and hating it.

[Bumpandkind]

I never, ever thought I'd resort to this. We co-sleep happily with our 6 month old but recently he will not do his 'usual' of starting off the night in his cot for a few hours whilst I have a few hours to myself and will only drop off on me. SO, I've started CC and he does drop off on the 10-20 minute cycle but I can't tell if he is in pain as his cries are so heartfelt and strong. Any words of advice pro or anti CC welcomed but please no telling me I'm barbaric.

I couldn't do it, DD1 just got in a 100% worse tiz is every time I went in.

She got the knack of sleeping soon enough by herself

Please do keep it at-it does work. I did it at six months with the help of my HV and a really good book called the Good Sleep Guide by Angela Henderson.

I have a well balanced, secure 2.9yo DD who sleeps through the night until 8am if I let her! I very much doubt she is unwired in the brain or all that nonsense as a result. I can easily recognise her cries when she genuinely needs me and is crying in pain and respond properly.

Please do carry on for the sake of your own sanity - it does work and you are not a bad person.

I can see your points and i know the are scientifically backed which is why I'm sitting on the fence on this one. Having seen happier settled babies as a result of sleep training and happier parents too makes me want to give it a go. Bumpology ( from the new scientist) has studies pro and against CC so I guess the juries still out.

At around 6 months sleep went doolally then settled again closer to 7 months (as in self settling). So it's probably a blip - there are plenty of blips along the way. It's never a continuous journey of improvements - illnesses, teething, growth spurts, development leaps all mess things up.

That was to chocolate and teo

I will add, I didn't use cc on my oldest. On my youngest, I would leave her to try and settle but if she was upset as in proper heartfelt crying, I would go in. It was a flexible approach. I wouldn't leave her to cry upset.

She's 2 now and settles like a dream. I can pop her in her cot, say goodnight and she settles (but not if ill obviously!)

He's still asleep post 'pick up and feed back to sleep'. Thanks queen I think a parents sanity/sleep deprivation must have negative impacts on a baby just as leaving them cry might .

Im Off to bed whilst he's sleeping. Thanks all for advice and opinions.

www.telegraph.co.uk/health/children_shealth/9286683/Babies-left-to-cry-feel-stressed-research-finds.html

As Havant has posted, the latest research shows cortisol levels just as high after sleep training has 'worked' and they are 'self-settling' as when crying. In other words they are still
As distressed but have given up crying as no one comes to comfort them. That's a horrid thought really. Go on PubMed (search engine for the medical profession). There is 'no' evidence base for sleep training and in the longterm there is no diff between the sleep habits of children who have been 'trained' or not. This is genuine research findings. Baby brains need security and reassurance to thrive. Good luck. It's very hard. I get no eve time to myself with my cosleeper however 'this too shall pass' and soon enough I will miss this stage. They grow so quickly

I'm not going to say if I'm pro or anti, but experts say (not the ones who write the bookz but the nhs and scientists) don't recommend sleep solutions before 12months.
it can also disrupt your and your baby's natural communication.

if it doesn't feel right then please don't continue.
6months is so very young and your baby is scared and feeling abandoned. they don't havethe braon development to understand you're not gone and tomorrow won't remmeber this either.

settle your baby nowand try again in 6 months