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Ear piercing for babies

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Nicole1984 · 21/12/2013 06:09

Hi all! I was about to arrange to get my DD's ears pierced but upon seeing some feedback from other mums on another website it gave me a different perspective as some mums had some very strong views and were absolutely against the idea Confused and so I'm just interested to know what you all think. All feedback welcome Smile

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OutragedFromLeeds · 21/12/2013 23:17

'Do we really know all the WHYS of every culture of every country or community in the world?'

No, but no-one's asking you about every culture or country in the world. They're asking you about YOUR culture, a culture you came on this thread to talk about Confused

'Are people in real world usually so judgemental or is it only here where you are allowed to say exactly what you think?'

They're just as judgemental about it in the real world, but they judge to themselves or to their friends, just not to your face. It's (usually) only here that people speak so frankly, that's the joy of it.

TheMuppetsSingChristmas · 21/12/2013 23:18

I think they are Upcycled - they just don't say it out loud, that's all. But you can be damn sure people all around are thinking in their heads "Nasty, nasty, nasty" when they see children under the age of about 10-12 with pierced ears. I judge. Oh yes.

YoureBeingASillyBilly · 21/12/2013 23:19
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Why would you say what you dont think upcycled? Of course you should say what you think. Pointless to even enter the conversation if not going to say what you think.

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Upcycled · 21/12/2013 23:22

outraged

I don't know for sure why people in my country have been piercing baby years for so long.

Maybe is something to do with the fact that even though the population and culture is extremely mixed with a number of European and Asian immigrants leaving their mark for such a long time, the original people are Indigenous People that have the habit to pierce many part of their bodies.

Is this answer good enough?

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 21/12/2013 23:23

It's the Internet, people will say what they think. And I will judge anyone who pierces their babies ears, because I think it's wrong and it looks awful.

Upcycled · 21/12/2013 23:24

youarebeingsillybilly

sorry, I don't understand your post so I can reply.

Upcycled · 21/12/2013 23:29

I guess what I wanted to say is that I feel it would be unfair if you judge a family or little girls that coming from my culture because they are just doing what is normal and acceptable in their culture...

Oh well maybe they deserve the stupid bastard chavs

OutragedFromLeeds · 21/12/2013 23:32

Did the indigenous people also pierce boys?

YoureBeingASillyBilly · 21/12/2013 23:34

You asked if it was only on here that people can say exactly what they think.

I asked you what would be the point in joining the thread if you arent going to say what you think.

Upcycled · 21/12/2013 23:36

Yes. Everyone.
But somehow, now on modern days it is just girls at birth.
I guess boys do it later on in their teens if they want to.

I know. Sexist shit. But it is a sexist 'third world' country anyway.

Over here everything is more civilised. And we have a lot to learn.

Upcycled · 21/12/2013 23:37

sillybilly

I don't think it is wrong as such.
But I wanted my daughter to have a choice.

YoureBeingASillyBilly · 21/12/2013 23:40
Confused

I was talking about people saying what they think on the intternet. I didnt ask about you daughter.

OutragedFromLeeds · 21/12/2013 23:43

So maybe judging them isn't a bad thing then? Them knowing that it isn't universally acceptable might make them rethink their sexist hole-punching of newborn baby girls?

Where would we be if we just accepted anything 'because they're just doing what is normal and acceptable in their culture'?

Upcycled · 21/12/2013 23:43

Ok sillybilly
I got you after I posted.
I know what you mean but I think that on the internet people get a bit hysterical...obviously you can say whatever you want, otherwise there is no point, but people exaggerate their feelings and answers a bit sometimes.
And I am not talking about this thread in particular since I didn't read it properly.

Upcycled · 21/12/2013 23:47

outraged

I never said we should just accept.
I for one, didn't.

But is a long process, you know, change a whole culture.
Who knows if judging them is a bad thing or a good one.

The reason why I posted here was to say that in some cultures they just do it. Whit out even thinking or blinking.
But maybe it isn't relevant to the OP or to the thread.

Thiscoukdbeme · 21/12/2013 23:50

Holding my hands up to judging.
Maybe I don't get the cultural issues around this. But no, I have no idea why anyone would punch holes in their baby's ears. I also have no idea why it's legal in this country.

Upcycled · 21/12/2013 23:56

Thiscoukdbeme

Maybe it is to make sure that girls know from an early age that they are supposed to sacrifice themselves and hang adorns on their body (as well as wearing make up, nail varnish, sexy clothing, high hills and long hair), to make themselves attractive.

QuintessentialShadows · 22/12/2013 00:23

Lipstick is much kinder. If you need to enhance your baby's looks why not lipstick or eyelash extensions?

;-)

ElleCloughie · 22/12/2013 12:26

I'm sat here looking at my baby DD's beautiful, perfect little ears while she has a post feed snooze. No way.

DPs let me and DSis have our ears pierced when we were secondary school age, and only after we had asked lots and lots! My DM had hers done as a baby, and doesn't remember it, but still didn't want us to have ours done when we were young. I think she had a couple of nasty incidents when she was little where a stud got pulled or something, and it has stayed with her.

purrforamincepie · 22/12/2013 12:45

Getting my ears done as a 10 year old (I think) was a rite of passage. Children mostly like being normal, and it was normal within my social group to have ears pierced at that age, and go for pizza afterwards. I was very meticulous about keeping them clean and I cherished each new pair of earrings I got for birthdays, Christmas etc. Now I'm older I'm wondering what 10 year old boys were doing with their time at that age. Were they worrying that their ears were pretty? Or were they getting really good at a hobby, building important skills? Were they just outside having fun?

You start making baby girls all about their appearance from birth, god alive. I'm all for a cute outfit on a baby boy or girl but that's it. They do not need this shit. It's part of a much bigger issue, in my opinion, but I had no idea that for some it is vital it starts at birth. Well, you wouldn't want an ugly baby girl would you? (Said entirely in jest. All babies are beautiful.)

MostWicked · 22/12/2013 13:10

Vile, horrible, trashy, vain.
Babies do not need jewellery. They are not a fashion statement.

Upcycled · 22/12/2013 13:11

I think the reason why they do straight after birthday in my home country is just practical. The nurses are already there and apparently it doesn't hurt since the flesh in the ear is so soft and new. Well that is what they say anyway. I am here wondering how Toddlers&Tiaras mums would defend their choices in a debating like this. Last time I watched it there were very young babies competing.

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Nicole1984 · 22/12/2013 15:07

Where are you from upcycled?

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Nicole1984 · 22/12/2013 15:09

My background is Jamaican and it's the norm here to pierce ears also. I didn't realise ppl had such adverse views until I came on here!

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Elllimam · 22/12/2013 22:55

I couldn't bear thinking about holding my baby down and deliberately harming her for no good reason.

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