How do you cope with your own illness and looking after dc?

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I'm asking because I've always suffered with menstrual migraines. They usually start when I'm due on and when I finish. Sometimes they last the whole week of my period.

I've had terrible frequent migraines for the last four weeks now and have been diagnosed with cluster headaches. They are severely debilitating. I have spent the entire day crawling from the bed to the toilet and back again. At one point, I slept with my head in the toilet as I was vomiting so much. I'm absolutely shattered and feeling so weak from this episode today.

Luckily for me my DH was home to look after DD (and me!) today, but I'm worried what I'll do if I get an attack and I'm alone with her all day.

Does anyone have any experience with this or similar?

TIA

Sorry I've no advice just sympathy ! I have arthritis and frequently get migraines too but I've been lucky that dh has always been there to look after dd when it happens! They're just awful and I also wonder how I'd manage if I were by myself ! I think I'd have to phone a friend to come and help !

Sending my sympathies!!

no experience of your condition but generally speaking, either your DH needs to have a talk with his employers or you need some understanding grandparents near to hand. I work 4 days a week so if I'm sick, the CM has the kids and I get to be home sick. My SAHM friend has to suck it up and just get on with it if she's sick as her (dickhead) DH won't take the day off, ever.

Luckily at the moment DH works from home and we live with his parents, but they're both over 65, so have ailments of their own to deal with. I just feel really guilty about being in bed all day and practically ignoring everyone, especially guilty about not giving DD any cuddles or a bottle.

Hopefully they'll pass soon. From what I've read they can last up to 3 months at a time, and then have a gap of months or even years between the next episode. I'm up with DD now while DH is asleep (snoring away!) but I'm ok at the moment.

It just made me wonder what I'd do without them and how other people cope with things like this.

Thanks nocturn ! Sorry to hear about your arthritis. Is it a constant battle or does it ease off on SprDoes it make generally easy things difficult?

Aw don't feel guilty ! There's absolutely nothing you can do about them :( and I'm sure your dh's parents understand ! It's terrible feeling useless though . My arthritis is inflammatory and disappeared completely during pregnancy . After dd was born it came back with a vengeance and dh has to do all the feeds at night and get her ready in the morning as Im like a 70 year old in the mornings! Aside from that it's grand and I'm ttc again , hopefully this time it'll disappear again! I hope your migraines go away soon :( especially in time for christmas !