Post natal depression

[Daisysnana]

Can anyone help us please this is my first time on the site my son is living with his partner and they have our 22 month old daughter but my daughter in law has been acting strange for a few months now she has never cared for her daughter the way a mother should after a few rows she broke down and shown end us all that she had been self harming and she says she tried suicide 3 times , I took her straight to doctors where they have placed her on sertrline100g a day plus she sees a councillor and has been diagnosed with pnd the only problem that I don't understand Is she keeps saying she has imagines in her head that my granddaughter is dead and that she's done it help is this normal help

No. It sounds like her depression is very severe and she needs urgent help. Did the doctor give you any contact details for a crisis team?

She sounds extremly ill , please get help for her asap .

Please try not to panic! Like all mental illness its on a scale. It sounds like she is seriously suffering which is why the GP has given her the dose they have. Sertraline is not normal started at 100mg.

I have PND for the second time. Being extremely honest about it I have had thoughts of my baby dying etc in a similar way to your DIL. I have had to hand my children over to someone else for a few hours or put them in a safe place and leave the room before I did something silly. I completely understand how parents can be pushed over the edge of sanity.

With my ds I wasn't treated and it was hell! Utter and complete hell. With dd (5 months) I'm not to bad as long as I take my meds. I've stopped them once and fast regretted it.

Your DIL needs rest, mountains of rest and sleep. If needs be take over looking after your grandchild until the meds work which could take up to 6 weeks. Do not put any extra pressure on her and make sure she gets some much needed space everyday for a few hours if possible.

She is very ill but she can come back from it without too much affect to your grandchild.

I am so pleased she is being honest with you and talking about it. She has been very brave.