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Help me knock some sense into dp

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bordellosboheme · 13/12/2013 23:01

We share childcare of ds who is 2 as we both work part time. Ds fell asleep in the car on the way home with dp. Dp therefore left him in the car on our drive, which adjoins a road, window slightly open and car doors unlocked. The. Dp went for a sleep in the house himself. how can I get through to him that this is a major parenting fail?

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Ifcatshadthumbs · 13/12/2013 23:03

he went for a sleep himself? Wow I would be raging

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bordellosboheme · 13/12/2013 23:05

Yes I was raging but didn't want to show it in front of ds. How do I explain this is neglectful? Sometimes I think he has nonsense. Why could he not have lifted the car seat into the house?

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bordellosboheme · 13/12/2013 23:05

No sense I mean

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lilyaldrin · 13/12/2013 23:07

Wow, that's insane! What was he expecting to happen if your DS woke up?

Flibbedyjibbet · 13/12/2013 23:14

Oh my god. Our DD1 often falls asleep in the car but we have electric gates and if we do leave her in the car we're up and down to the window or door every few minutes looking for the slightest movement to show she's coming round.

On the rare occasion DD1 and DD2 have both been asleep in the car and I'm dying with tiredness I stay in the cat and close my eyes and get an almighty fecking crick in my neck

Incidentally who did wake first the child or your Dp?

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bordellosboheme · 13/12/2013 23:16

He thought he'd be able to hear him from the house. Luckily dp woke first and I came home to find ds still sleeping, but car doors unlocked. That is not secure.... I'm scared to go to work in case he does something silly like this again

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CranberryCookie · 13/12/2013 23:18

Unbelievable! Awful anyway but why on earth did he leave the doors unlocked? I do it occasionally if ds2 has been asleep for too long to transfer to the house, but I can see the car through the front window and I'm checking every five minutes that he hasn't woken up. Sometimes I just take a book out there and sit in the front seat until he wakes up because I feel too jittery when he's out there on his own.

lilyaldrin · 13/12/2013 23:20

If he doesn't understand the problem, I'd think about asking the HV to come and talk to him.

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bordellosboheme · 13/12/2013 23:22

I'm tempted to do that and ask the hv to have a word. But I don't want it to reflect badly on our parenting as a whole. Dp loves ds, just lacks common sense in some areas. Perhaps I could threaten him with hv, but I don't think he would think I am serious.

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Jinglejohnsjulie · 13/12/2013 23:26

You can send him around to me if you like, I can be pretty scary

lilyaldrin · 13/12/2013 23:27

Thing is, it actually is a serious risk to your DS if your DP can't assess risk properly - you can't be afraid to leave them alone together.

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