Parent at DD's school making me feel paranoid about my daughter's weight

[manchestermummy]

My 6.2 year old DD1 is friends with a little girl whose mother is making comments every time I see her about what my daughter eats. Usually along the lines of she eats too much. DD1 isn't skinny but she most certainly is not fat. She's rather tall, and though she looks solid, you can see her ribs/spine when naked and her BMI according to the NHS calculator is within the healthy range. But what she isn't is wiry like her friend. The way her mother talks about what my DD is eating, it sounds like she is trying to say something.

I am probably paranoid, but I am fearful this woman may tell her DD that mine eats too much. The little girl in question is also very sporty, which my DD is not (although my DD loves and is good at swimming: we have tried many activities but she hated them all. She has tons of energy and runs round just like all the others) and I get comments about that too.

What do I do?

Is she worried that her daughter doesn't enough?

Who knows! Maybe, hadn't considered that.

Yes she may be being rude or she may be worried.

I have one non sporty tall well built DD who eats a fair bit and one sporty survives on fresh air DD, both have given me pause for thought over the years.

Now as teens it's cleat that's the way they are. DD1 has got a lot taller and settled to an adult size 12 (not skinny, but not overweight as my DSIS was at her age). DD2 slot becomes less fussy and now actually eats normal sized portions of some things. She will always be slight, but not as worryingly so.

Think it is rude of her to comment, does she make these comments in front of your dd?

Was she weighed and measured in Reception? If there were any concerns, you would have received a letter

My dd isn't very sporty either and although she's skinny I don't think its good for her to slob about too much so I try to get her out on her scooter or bike as much as possible and take her swimming when I can.

The other mother is interfering and I would take great delight in seeing what other absurd comments she might come out with.

Yes all in front of DD...

Ok'd its in front of the DC you need to stop it. Tell her away from them that you prefer not to talk about DDs food in front of her, nothing personal, it's just how you are.

Yes I think you need to say something to her if you can find a way of doing it tactfully. It would be a great shame if your daughter was needlessly made to feel self conscious about her diet.