Dd1 driving me mad-academically clever,but no common sense!

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She's 11 but sometimes the most simple things seem beyond her. Yet again she's not ready for school when her friend calls round-despite me nagging . She needs step-by-step instructions for nearly everything otherwise she claims she wasn't told to do it!
Please reassure me all girls of her age are like this .

I guess it's just her then

I was!!! I did very well at school but had no common sense, was very slow to get ready in the mornings and was away with the fairys half the time! I did seem to gain more common sense and get more 'with it' as I got older!

Oh dear!!!

Schneebly - how did you get with it??? I am still like it at 25!!!!

Sorry Cat - there isn't much hope I'm afraid. Some of us are just like that. Now she is either at senior school or starting in September it will only get worse... forgotten homework/lunch money/pe kit...

Fortunately she's at middle school so we've got 2 more years to sort her out . What gets me is that her report says she's organised etc etc. I'm sure they've got her mixed up with another child

I do (when I'm here) mostly cos I'm too busy mumsnetting
(Oops,did I really say that!)

no its boys as well
My ds is 12 G+T off the scale in maths science and languages
but can he remember his bloody tie?
and the long list of things.
Now we had some luck withdrawing ALL privileges
computer, PS 2 mobiule phone credit and late nights.
Said we would do it a different way.
I gave him a laminated card of AM routine
wake up time
dress
breakfast
wash face hands and brush teeth
pack bag by 7.45
Leave thereafter.
We have a card for after school and one for after dinner. If not done his privileges for that day are gone.

It actually has worked
WE have the odd blip but then we just reinforce the cards.
We get on sooooo much better now that I'm not on his case all the time
I also started taking the money for things he lost out of his savings.
He has not lost anything since...
DS actually has very few restrictions now, and we all just get along!

Good idea Piffle.When i was younger had an elderlyish family friend a very clever Mathmatician and scientist...no common sense whatsoever.Whilst reading the newspaper in the garden the wind blew pages away and he insisted on picking pages up in order and discarded the others if not the correct number!

mY 12YO DS IS LIKE THIS TOO. Sorry caps were locked.
It drives me up the wall ! He's very clever - I've just been reading his report, where one teacher says "B is a highly intelligent young man who has made no effort whatsoever in class, and rarely does homework...however...excellent grade...he must somehow have revised at the last minute.." He's just done Common Entrance and has managed to get into a powerfully academic London school, where I hope they will sort him out. Mega disorganised, everything done at the last minute after endless nagging etc. Always forgetting stuff.

Sorry I've no answers but you're not alone.