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sdwsunshine · 17/07/2006 23:49

Hi, first time posting but been reading for a while. i have a three year old. all my friends are now onto child no. 2 and i am always been asked "are you next?" etc etc. i am having a huge dilemma as not sure i want another child and am worried that the only reason i would consider it is to give my son a sibling. Is it wrong to have no2 to prevent no 1 from being an only child? I think probably but others say it;s a good reason. i guess only children will be more the norm soon. Any thoughts, positive feelings really welcome.

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CristinaTheAstonishing · 17/07/2006 23:51

There've been a few threads on here recently. I can't work out the search facility v well, i'd post a link.

There'll be opinions about everything. Should there be two children the next thing will be what age gap, what sex etc. I'd say have a second when if and when you feel ready.

CristinaTheAstonishing · 17/07/2006 23:51

Welcome here BTW.

iamapieceofcheesecake · 17/07/2006 23:52

This is exactly the way I feel sometimes. At the mo we are ttc, and sometimes I feel that I am only doing it because I think ds would like a sibling 'to play with'. Although I feel this way, I get a bit upset when I get AF, so I know that in my heart of hearts I really would like another baby. Hope this helps a little.

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iamapieceofcheesecake · 17/07/2006 23:53

Oh yes 'Welcome'.
Sorry to have been so rude

FloatingOnTheMed · 17/07/2006 23:55

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iamapieceofcheesecake · 17/07/2006 23:56

I'm in 2 minds about that 'loving them both the same' thing. I feel that I will always love my ds more because he is my first born. I wonder if that'll change if I do have another one....

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iamapieceofcheesecake · 18/07/2006 00:03

I'm also worried that ds won't get as much of the attention as he does get, and I would hate that as he loves his cuddles and alone time with mummy. And also all the attention other family members shower on him. He may feel neglected. But I'm pretty sure that as the new baby was being passed about, I would make all the time in the world to shower him with the love and attention that I feel he deserves.

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