social worker comin tomorrow

[Annoyedparent]

DS father assaulted him recently, thankfully no injuries or marks were left. It shook DS aged 6,who has ASD up and left him with nightmares as he also badly verbally abused him. We had rekindled our relationship and he ha a key although doesn't live here. He refused to give the key back. After ring in Womans Aid for advice I rang police and local council to Change locks.

Incident was passe to Child Abuse team but because no marks left couldn't prosecute. They passed onto social care. Social worker is visiting tomorrow. she said she needs to check DS bedroom etc..

So worried. What should I expect? Ex has never gone for DS before although he has been vile to me in past. Totally shocked by it all, racked with guilt and utterly depressed.

Ex tried getting in with key couple of days ago, snapped key trying to get in as locks changed. he was then knocking windows and doors to talk. All of this in front of DS who is terrified of him. He later ran landline begging to come found next night and wanted to talk and brings few drinks for us. Told him no. He then sent two messages saying he was coming. Made sure I was back late that night. Thankfully blocked him on Facebook, his mobile is broken an he can now only ring from hostel he lives in. Fed up and low. Really worried about SS visit. Should be tidying ad cleaning in prep for it but don't have the energy :(
Anyone much experience of SS visits?

This sounds awful for you.

It won't take them long to realise your love for your son.

Try to relax about it and hope things get better really soon

They will want to know that you are protecting your DS from your ex, and probably that the relationship has ended. They may give you useful advice about measures that you can take to keep your ex away / keep yourselves safe.
They have to come, your DS was assaulted, it's the law. They need to know he is safe. They will not be coming to criticise, and as long as your house has basic levels of care (food in, beds for DC, toys for DC, safe environment) they will not care too much if it is a bit untidy.
Try to think positively about the visit - it may be helpful.

It depends. Are you working ? Do you take drugs ? Has he got food,warm bed clean clothes ? Is your ex defo still and will be your ex forever? I trained in socal care and for what I've read you sound like a careing mum she might suggest a few things like moveing how old are you aswell ? X

Thanks I replies. I'm early 30s, work in primary education and have for last decade, im governor and parent helper at DS school. I'm really trying but feel so low. Don't take drugs , I do smoke (outside) and enjoy the of glass of wine

Have they been yet annoyed?

Hiya yes not long left. She was perfectly pleasant and I felt DS and I engaged well with her. She will nee to speak to school to finalise initial assessment. She said if all OK from school it should be a closed case. She is also speaking to the local council to ask them to waive lock changing fee and referring me to lock domestic violence charity. Also needs to speak to our GP. Big weight off my mind now the visits done.

That all sounds good Annoyed