Not sure if this is the right group but I need some help

[se1990]

I apologise for any errors as I'm doing this quickly on my phone.

Basic over view - my 2 year old lives with me, ex has him every other weekend and o e day a week. On those weekends he only has LO one night and his mum has him the other. Ex has a new gf and since it started he changed. I am in college and will be off to uni next year. This is for both me and my son to have a better life.

I told my ex about moving to liverpool, I currently live 60 miles from liverpool, and he has kicked off saying he wants either joint or full custody. I know it'd mean an hour and 15 mins drive for him every other weekend (would no ponger do o e day a week) and I'd be willing to help as much as poss to bring him back. He doesn't want to hear any of my suggestions. I've been called all the names under the sun by him and also harrassed.

Another thing he said was he wanted a court order to stop me moving.

I know these aren't all the details but I've tried my best to give enough info. Can he stop me moving? Isn't our arrangement already joint custody?

(Ex works shift e.g. nights fri - sun, mon sleep, tues off, wed & thurs days then fri - sun off... so he can't really have him more than he does any ways and would have to use unnesecary childcare if he had him more.

Sorry for the long story! I'm really worried he could stop me moving even though it will be the best for me and my son. Of course I still want him to see LO as that's the right thing.

Thanks

Hi se,

There is a Lone Parents section where there are lots of posters with relevant experience. Try reposting there, or asking for this thread to be moved (you report your own thread and ask for it to be moved, I think).

I'm afraid I can't answer any of your specific questions - but I would say don't take everything he has threatened as something that is possible. It sounds like he's lashing out as he doesn't like what you've told him. If he's harassing you, keep a record of everything so you can use this evidence where/if necessary.

I am not a lawyer but I seriously doubt he can do anything; as you point out, he can still easily carry on the arrangement with only minor inconveniences, so there is no reason for him to seek any other changes- what you're doing is no threat to his relationship with his child.
However, I would try to get advice about how to proceed. I'm afraid I can't provide good pointers, hopefully someone wi give better advice- go to citizens advice bureau, or it might be that your uni student union might be able to help but I guess you haven't started yet. You just need advice on how to deal with your ex, just knowing a bit of the law (so you can show him you mean business) will help.
Or you can leave it in his court - he won't be able to reasonably do anything so hopefully his hot air will just blow off.
What an arsehole. Amazing that your making this move to help yourself and your son- don't let him make you doubt how great that is.