How did you decide to go for it and TTC number 2?

[delilah89]

DD is 13 months old and we're sure we want another one fairly soon (like any moment now!) but we haven't actually started TTC. I think we're both a bit nervous -- although it's a real plan it's a bit scary to actually make it happen! (DD1 was very easy to conceive).

Did anyone else have this, and how did you actually decide to go for it? It's very different than the decision to TTC the first, I think. Did other people feel this?

I just knew that the longer we waited the less likely we would be to want to go back there (to newborn stage I mean) plus age (mine) helped push me along. started TTC when DC1 was 18m and fell straight away. Having a baby plus 2yr old was hard (now 2 and 4 - still pretty hard a lot of the time) but it was the right decision on balance.

Similar to ThePippy here. DD was 15 months when we fell pregnant with DS. We both wanted a relatively short age gap so the children would be friends as well as siblings as they grew.

Having a newborn and a toddler seemed terrifying but actually, DS just had to learn to fit in with DD. Her routines for things like mealtimes and bedtime were already set and he was (luckily) a pretty laid-back little soul. DD came out of nappies four months after DS was born which made things so much easier and cheaper.

The 'newborn' stage was always my worst nightmare with both of mine before they were born, but in retrospect, it was easier the second time round and went so fast.

DD is now 5 and DS is 3 and they are really good together 99% of the time.

Go for it!!

We knew we really wanted two kids, basically, and I didn't want a massive gap. As it was, between a miscarriage and a good few months of TTC it took a over a year to get pregnant again (first time only took 2 months) so I'm glad we got started when we did. Do it!

Basically we started when I felt that another baby wouldn't be a total disaster.... DS was around 20m and I found out on his 2nd birthday.

I don't go in for all this ttc stuff! Way too stressful! I prefer the ''getting pregnant wouldnt be the worst thing so lets just see what happens' approach. no long discussions/hard decisions/worry about when to dtd! i stopped bfeeding when she was 12 months and we just carried on as usual. Found out was preg when dd was 13 months, dc2 due in April :)

The age gap thing. I didn't want big gaps between each of my children.

Dp and I haven't started trying yet but we know we want another one. DD is only just 1 and now she has gotten easier, will play by herself, good communication so your not stressing out about why she is crying, we both miss that tiny baby stage and because we are both very close to our siblings (less than 18 months between both of us and our younger brothers) it's always just been how we imagined our family.

We have just had an offer accepted on a new house so we just said "we don't want to be moving house while pregnant" (which we had to do with dd and it was a real pain in the arse.) So we have just said as soon as we are in the new house and properly sorted (furniture in its proper place, walls painted etc) we will start tying. I am both excited and terrified, but mostly excited.

Had a discussion when ds was about 18 months that we'd see how we felt when he turned 2 but we agreed that's the earliest we'd start trying. He turned two and I told dh that I was having my implant removed the next week. He asked why now and I said coz we discussed it, I'm getting older (38), and there's never a perfect time so wet might as well see what happens. Knew I'd need to be the one to make a firm move, and he seems to be going along with it!

Took so long to get pg with dc1 i didnt bother with contraception. Got pg when dc 18 months and had mc. Decided to try again right away to get that bit of my life over with (mcs make me die quietly inside, not sure how many more i could take and knew wouldnt stop thinking about it). Got pg again first month of trying. Dc2 now bfing in arms! Aiming for total contraception now :)
Two is bonkers atm, but overall better than one, in the long term, for us.

We thought we'd better get on with TTC number 2 as we'd had lots of difficulties conceiving first time. I was worried it would take several years again, so we stopped using protection when DC1 was about 14 months.

We got pregnant within a couple of months, much to our complete shock! So we'll have a much smaller age gap then we were expecting!

we knew we wanted number 2 and have them close in age. i didnt feel ready, but thought when do you ever feel really ready? lol. plus not sure how long it would take! well, it took one try and im sitting with number 2 as i type - 5 weeks old! my first is 21 months. it is a lot of work...but so worth it! just go for it if you want two kids close together!