Feeding to sleep at night

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My DD is 10 weeks old. I also have a DS who is 2 yr and 3 months.

I am starting to implement a sort of bedtime routine that ties into my sons bedtime routine. After he goes to bed, I will start to bring DD into our room (where her Moses) is and feed her. At the moment I take her back downstairs so I can have dinner with DH.

I currently let DD suck and feed til I can sense she's had enough and is ready to sleep. She can be on the breast for ages in the evening though (a couple of hours), just grazing dozing sucking etc. I feel so bad and worry about this. But it's so easy and I can sense when to put her in her Moses. She then only wakes once.

Is this so bad?

DS was very windy bummymummy. What worked well for us was winding as gentle as possible (hula technique worked best) and then when he woke I'd quickly refeed and then not wind. He never suckled very long the second time before falling back to sleep. The key is to not let them fall asleep until you've done the feed, so break off before that happens, then restart IYSWIM.

Thanks. Will try the hula.

Trouble is he falls asleep 10 sucks in and then nurses for a good 40 minutes plus during which I have to poke and prod him to keep him awake!

bummy dd also had terrible wind when a baby. I found that if I held her in an upright position for 20 mins after a feed that worked as well as a more vigorous burping with the advantage of not waking her. Also a wedge shaped foam pillow for her to sleep on really helped.

Oh and in regard to dummies, dd has a dummy and still bf to sleep for 18 months. They really don't magically make them sleep on their own I'm sad to say.

My DD is 11 months and I feed and cuddle her to sleep every night, as I find it the easiest option. If I put her in her cot she tries to stand up.

I would do what you're doing. If you are concerned about self-soothing, I would just try to notice the times he dozes off on his own and try to put him down at those times and see what happens. I don't see a problem with leaving them to fuss a bit but not actual crying when they're tiny. (I feed my nine-month-old to sleep -- it works for us. I am going to gently encourage her to spend more of the night in her cot in the next few weeks.)