When did your dc understand the word 'no'?

[wibblyjelly]

DS is 14 months, and into everything. It doesn't help that he has no fear. We are saying no to him in certain situations, and taking him away from what ever he shouldn't be doing.
Thing is, sometimes it works straight away, sometimes it takes a couple of times of saying it, and other times nothing will deter him.
Does this sound normal for his age, or do we need to be trying something else with him? Thanks.

Distract or show him what to do or make things safe (eg fix book shelves to walls, remove breakables etc).

He's far too young to exercise self control. He's very young!

That's my feeling too Steam, but I've had the whole 'making a rod for my own back' from my parents speech, as I think they feel if he is told no, he should listen and understand.
I'll keep up with the no and distracting technique

They dont remember what 14 month olds are like!! My youngest is 23 months and even I can't remember much. So I would smile and nod then ignore them

My kids still don't understand the word no and they're 10 and 12 !

Giving me hope there Jemma

Understand or accept?

DD2 is 3 and the word "no" has the ability to induce tantrums of immense proportions.

Mine is 10mths. Knows damn well what no is. Hesitates, turns my way, looks at me and grins reaches out and does it again, then turns and grins again. Much the same as my 3yr old really.

understand or comply

I guess I mean accept, angel. He has started with the tantrums as well, if I take something away from him (for instance if he throws something across the room, I give him a warning. If he does it again, I take it away from him for a short time, and he normally throws himself to the floor, sobbing)

If they do understand what no means they will almost certainly ignore you! I'm afraid physical removal is the only way at this age IMO.

That's fine peanut. I just wanted to make sure my parenting was ok. I didn't want ds to be the only one not listening to me

DS was about 18 months I think. Certainly didn't understand at 14 months.

Thank you all. Will keep going as we are

My 10-month-old DS2 understands 'no' in that he'll stop what he's doing if I say it (and burst into tears), but he doesn't remember it for long and I wouldn't expect him to. I'm pretty impressed he understands it at all. My DS1 has severe SN and is 8yo and doesn't understand 'no' at all.

My 10 month old DDs knew the word and understood it. However at that age and for a long time afterwards, they are far too young to actually obey it everytime.

They are too full of adventure and too inquisitive by nature to be able to control themselves.

Trust your instincts and ignore your parents.

11 months. Remember the day well.
Slightly broke my heart that I needed to start disciplining him.

But what you are describing in your op sounds perfectly normal to me.

Both mine understood this at 14 months. Even though my ds had a speech delay. The key is is the tone used and the associations. Slightly sharp. Just the one word, sharp and repeated, taking thing/child away. You don't need language to understand the word - dogs understand the odd word despite the fact they are never going to be talking

Understanding and remembering might be a bit different. My 2 year old understands no, will check quite clearly at the time what is allowed and what is not (confused face, holds hand nearer and nearer forbidden object to check that is allowed) but the following day he's back there again.

rather than just the word though, I always try to explain WHY he's not allowed to do something and what exactly he's doing that is wrong. otherwise (slight exageration) how does he know it's not any of the other things he's doing then that is wrong - breathing/standing up etc!!

Last Monday, on the way home fom nursery, DD2 (3) told me "don't argue with me mummy" they will try it on. You sound like you are doing the right things. Being consistent helps.

Oh yes, 10 months here as well. He understands no very we'll, and wait, recognises my cross face and the pointy cross finger. He used to cry when I said no, now he outs his hands over his ears lol -he is a year old.

At 14 months my DS knew it as he would stop what he was doing, shake his head. Give it a minute and do what ever he was doing again. At 16 months when I told him no he'd shout at me.

Sounds like I've got a ways to go yet
I think he understands more than he let's on though, judging by the times I ask him for a kiss, and he says no shaking his head at me..