3 yrs 2 mths and training a boy.

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Ok, today is the day I decided to start potty/toilet training. A previous attempt months ago didn't get far as I decided my son wasn't ready.

I feel quite down (inside) at the moment (I've been involved in other children's training) and we are now 4 hrs into this.. he doesn't mind his pants too much, which he chose and he will sit on the potty, but no warning when he wees which is no where near the potty.

I've been very calm etc after each accident, (7 in total) but the last one was in the kitchen when he then went and slipped on the floor.. in my weariness I went and (maybe stupidly) stuck a nappy back on him whilst I mopped the floor up, saying this was until after lunch (needed some moments to think of my next move)

I'm not sure whether to plod on or delay this even further.. part of me says he is just not ready.. though he hates wet pants. I feel fed up with everyone elses peer pressure going on and I am trying hard not to cave in to this!

Sorry for the rant.

Oh dear. I feel for you. My dd is 3yrs 4 mths, been trained for a year and we've had 3 accidents in 2 days!! Having said that dh is away in the US at the moment, so that could be the reason.

Anyway, back to you. I'm not sure whether it's ds that isn't ready to tackle this or you. Sorry, but most of the time we blame the kids and it's us.

You need to set aside at least a week when nothing else happens apart from potty training. Keep the potty close by and sit him on it every 30 mins. Make sure you've got a star chart, or other form of reward and make a BIG deal when he does wee on the potty and not be disappointed, cross when he doesn't.

I kept a chart of the pattern of wees, even if they weren't on the potty, just to get an idea of how often she wee'd and when in the day. Also I marked the accidents and successes so that I could see progress. That really helped to anticipate when she might need to go.

Whatever you do, once you've decided to ditch the nappy, don't put one back on. Explain that he is a big boy now and will only need a nappy at night. You've done well letting him choose his pants.

Does he have friends that are training/trained. You could tell him that they do wee's on the potty and maybe that will encourage him.

Try books / dvd's from the library too. I used Gina Ford for me and got some books for dd too.

Lastly, don't give in to peer pressure, you have to do this when you are BOTH ready and not before.

Best of luck

Gail