Play date putting objects in bottom. What to do?

[ernesttheBavarian]

For my good friend. Her ds, 5, often plays with the boy next door, also about 5. This boy has often played a pulling down pants and smacking bum game. When my friend tried to raise this with his mum, he blamed my friends ds.

Yesterday when they were round his house he pulled down pants again but this time was inserting objects into his bum and wanted my friends ds to do same. My friends ds didn't like it and went home.

My friend doesn't know what to do. When she tried to raise pant down behaviour before the neighbour blamed my friends ds.

Is object insertion normal or is this in itself something to worry about. Apart from the obvious danger and risk of injury. I don't think I would be happy for my dc to go round there but didn't know what to advise my friend when she asked.

How to deal with it? Problem is, esp in summer the kids are in and out of each other's houses. Tricky.

Not sure whether this is a normal phase but if my DS had a friend like this and the mother wasn't receptive to the issue being raised I wouldn't let my DS into his house or vice versa. They could play outside under normal supervision.

That's not normal in my world and could be dangerous.. what would happen if something was up there and a fall happened?

Eve though the mum blamed your friends kid she still needs to know her kid is sticking things up his backside.

Could she ring some child services for advice?

Call SS, there's no good way for this boy to have learned such behaviour.

I kind of disagree with the SS response - children do try to put things in orifices - but the kid sounds like there's other behaviour that's problematic. I would agree with the supervision requirement.

One of ds's little friends likes pulling down his pants when they are jumping on the trampoline (I always tell ds not to copy the behaviour), BUT inserting stuff in the bum? never, it is really odd. I wouldn't allow them to play without supervision.

FFS Santiago, my DS has done this and there is nothing remotely untoward going on with him.

I think kids often do some pretty odd stuff whilst playing, years ago when i was little everyone I knew used to play doctors and nurses and nobody's parents got hysterical or called SS. OTOH, if she genuinely thinks there's a child protection issue then it would be right to ask someone about it.