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My 4 year old is waking frequently at night

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Hazelvt2013 · 20/11/2013 06:34

Dear All,

I am new to a forum but am desperate for some advice & would value any help. I have a 4 year old who has never been great at sleeping through the night; but over the last 6 months this has got progressively worse.

It started off that she would call out 1 or 2 times a night & settle quickly when I opened the door & told her to go back to sleep.

However, we are now at the stage where she calls out 3 times at bed time, settles, then has been calling out during the night from between 2 times a night to perhaps 2 hourly over night. Needless to say I'm exhausted, getting to work is a night mare.

She does sleep in her own bed, I have a bed time routine consisting of bath, story & bed, taking no more than 20 mins. She is usually in bed by 6.15pm. She doesn't get out of bed. She has never come into our bed & I have never picked her up to cuddle her.

I'm just at a loss as to what to do to break this cycle. I have tried controlled crying, but she just makes herself sick.

I have use reward charts, pennies from the sleep fairy; these last a few days & then the effect wears off. When I ask her about it all, she says she doesn't know why she wakes.

The calling out sounds sleepy to start with, as if she is doing it in the light sleep cycle,but then I think she must wake herself up because her calling just gets louder.

Whenever I read anything like this on forums, it generally seems to be for younger children, or those where there is a new baby, new house, etc. there has been no change in our household since we moved 3 years ago. She has started primary school, full time, but this started a good month before September.

I am desperate for some advice or guidance that perhaps I could try. I would be very grateful for any help.

Thank you for taking the time to read my ramblings xx

P.s. My husband is very hands on too, but we've run of ideas!!

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CPtart · 20/11/2013 06:51

My first thought is that her bedtime is very early!

Hazelvt2013 · 20/11/2013 10:09

Hello,

Yes I ah thought that & moved her bedtime back for 2 weeks but it made no difference, in fact she took longer to sleep.

She does go to bed early, but it's because I have to have her up early so I can get her to kids club by 7am so I can get to work. She's usually up by 6am.

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ZuleikaD · 20/11/2013 18:49

Calling out a lot at bedtime or soon after (because she's probably not going to sleep at 6.15) is pretty standard 4yo behaviour, so I wouldn't worry about that. The middle of the night is different. You don't say if she's dry at night? She may be waking up when she's weeing - when you get up with her you could encourage her to go for a wee. IME quite often when they start waking to wee they don't know why they're waking. It took my 3yo a couple of months to get the hang of why he was waking up and my 4yo still doesn't.

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