Custody arrangments for a small baby?

[Repeatedlydoingthetwist]

Hi all,

I never thought I'd have to ask this but sadly it looks like me and DP might be over

Our DD is just under 5 months old and we'll need to think about arrangements for access/custody. She'll be moving in with me and my mum, and I was just wondering what sort of arrangements other people have in place? DP wants her overnight 3 times a week but I read some stuff earlier that said it wasn't good for small babies to have this disruption? Can anyone advise?

TIA

Sorry, I have no advice, bumping for you though, in the hope that someone who knows more than me will see this. Sorry that you are having a tough time!

Do you breastfeed? If not I would think 50/50 would be a fair arrangement for everyone involved.

Best of luck.

Presume you are not breast feeding ?
I am no expert but would have thought that at this age it will be easier for a baby to get used to different arrangements - If dp an dd are to have a close relationship it's presumably better that he ges used to taking his turn with the nights etc - I think an older toddler would be more disrupted. Even then - I'm not sure it would be disruptive for te baby if its her dad and she is just sleeping between two places

It must be really painful for you but I'm not sure there is a reason why dd should not do overnights - always better to try and see how things go? Are you amicable in discussion ?

Relationships thread might be more useful