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3 month old sleeping in same room as us

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MrsNormanBates · 19/11/2013 20:51

I'm still brining 3 month old ds to sleep in the living room with us in his Moses until we go to bed upstairs, then we take him up with us.

He's outgrowing his Moses and will soon be in a fit, is it okay for him to be sleeping in the bedroom alone until we go up to bed?

I understand SIDS guidelines says baby should sleep in the same room, which he does at night, but I don't dance going to bed at 7pm.

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BarberryRicePud · 19/11/2013 21:00

Yes absolutely. Vast majority of people do this IME.

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MrsNormanBates · 19/11/2013 21:03

Great, thank you barberry

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Thesebootsweremadeforwalking · 19/11/2013 21:04

We've got DD in a travel cot in the living room. TBH as well as meeting the SIDS guidelines I'm finding it easier on me on any evening when she doesn't settle so well.

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MrsNormanBates · 19/11/2013 21:04

Sorry fit should read COT

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MigGril · 19/11/2013 21:06

it's up to you, but you are right SIDS guidelines say all babies sleeps should be in the same room as you.

we used the travel cot once DS had outgrown the crib.

Sammie101 · 19/11/2013 21:09

Should be fine, DD sleeps in our bedroom 7-10, I have to stop myself from checking on her every half hour because I've woken her up on a few occasions!

Handbagsonnhold · 19/11/2013 21:12

I always put dd in Moses in our bedroom at her bedtime.... and bought the monitor down and checked on her regularly x

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MrsNormanBates · 19/11/2013 21:15

mig what did you do when it was time for you to go upstairs to bed? Did you take the baby out of the travel cot and put in cot? We've been carry the Moses upstairs with us but I'm starting to find it too heavy. I think if we tool ds out, he would wake up and not resettle in cot.

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Thesebootsweremadeforwalking · 19/11/2013 21:19

DD wears a sleeping bag in the travel cot. When I take her upstairs she'll either go straight down in the cot, or will have a sleepy little feed then go down. The sleeping bag avoids waking her by putting her in a cold cot.

pixielove · 20/11/2013 12:51

my dd2 (18 weeks) has been in her own room and cot since 7 weeks for most naps and all night. For dd1 it was from 2 weeks old. Never had any issues. I much prefer them being in their own space and I think we would bother her and her us!

PippasLondon · 20/11/2013 15:39

Yes its fine. Its the same as day time naps in that you don't have to be in the same room as your sleeping baby.

When little, our daughter went to sleep in our room in a moses then cot and we often didn't go to bed for a few hours. I guess the presumption is if you are awake you can check up on them regularly. Then if you're sleeping you'll be more alert if they are in the same room.

Also most of my friends moved their babies into their own room v early also (my niece was in her own room at 1 week old and I know lots who were in their own room by 3 months).

I'm sure you could ask your GP/health visitor for some clarification on this too. What may help is getting a video monitor - they monitor everything - breathing etc and you can see your little one so that may give you some peace of mind - a few friends swear by them.

MinesAPintOfTea · 20/11/2013 15:41

You are advised to keep the baby in the same room as you for all sleeps to 6 months. You have to decide how far you want to take that but I used to lie on the bed and read a lot.

JRmumma · 20/11/2013 15:46

If you follow the guidelines to their exact words you have them in the living room with you, and if they are sleeping well and not waking when you transfer them up to bed then keep doing that. However if you are disturbing them then put them up to bed, get a monitor and check on them regularly.

I have a 14 week old and tbh i would like to get him up to bed now in the evenings but i cant be arsed to keep running up and down to check. I tried one night but i worried too much and as someone upthread said, i disturbed him by checking too often!

poocatcherchampion · 20/11/2013 17:18

we have a 3 month old as well and are starting to realise that our telly watching is disturbing her in the evenings. I'm not really prepared to put her upstairs tho.

she is down with me for all daynaps.

so no help from me Grin.

Christelle2207 · 20/11/2013 20:21

Our 15 wker now sleeps in his own room from 7 pm -until bedtime we're downstairs and from bedtime in the room next door. Not following guidelines I know but we all sleep better this way - I've also found the investment in movement and video monitors worthwhile-former for reassurance and latter so that i can check on him without going into his room

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MrsNormanBates · 21/11/2013 01:31

mines I have a 2 yo so can't do that as much as I'd love to.

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Gerty1002 · 21/11/2013 06:53

I have a ten week old DS who has a 7:30pm bedtime... we put him in his cot in our room and put monitor on, have dinner and wash bottles etc and go to bed when we are ready. However, that is usually only an hour or so later and we check him regularly until then. When we go up to bed we make sure he's properly asleep then stick a dvd on :).

Iwaswatchingthat · 21/11/2013 07:03

Our dds slept in the same room as us at night until seven months. But they napped in their cots alone and were put down to sleep at about half past six on their own in our bedroom then we went to bed at about half ten. We did not have a monitor and I probably did do lots of checks - they both slept well in the early months.

Tbh I probably misinterpreted the SIDS guidelines as I thought it meant the long middle of the night stretch when all asleep.

LadyGooGoo · 21/11/2013 07:09

I never even considered that I was supposed to keep the baby with me at all times when they slept...tbh I had them in a cot upstairs for naps and they went at 7pm on their own too...surely if you are awake with a monitor that's sufficient?

Iwaswatchingthat · 21/11/2013 07:14

ladygoogoo Me too!

I have started to feel guilty about every aspect of my past parenting since joining mumsnet!!! At the time I thought I was doing a pretty good job!

StuckOnARollercoaster · 21/11/2013 07:24

We started putting DD upstairs in her cot at about 12-14 weeks as she was starting to outgrow her cot and getting fussy so decided to start a bedtime routine.
Because of the Sids guidance we leave the door open, low light on and are not particularly quiet as we move around, watch tv, get dinner ready so that her sleep is not too deep (until we go to bed as well later on in same room as her and then silence and dark)
(because the Sids advice is that it's about the baby hearing your noises rather than you seeing or hearing a problem with the baby)

StuckOnARollercoaster · 21/11/2013 07:25

Meant outgrowing her carrycot!

DreamingOfTheMaldives · 21/11/2013 18:24

For the last 2 weeks we have started putting, now 12 week old DS to bed in our room at 8pm. We go to bed at about 1030pm. We have an Angelcare monitor which gives me the peace of mind to do this.

He sleeps well from 8pm whereas when he was downstairs with us he would be very unsettled all evening. I think he was tired but couldn't settle properly because of the tv and us talking etc

DreamingOfTheMaldives · 21/11/2013 18:26

Like StuckOnARollerCoaater we leave door open, low light on and don't creep around. I Hoover the downstairs, including the hallway when he is in bed!

Alexchallex · 21/11/2013 20:06

Dis was in his own room at 3 months. We use a video monitor, it also has sound and a pressure pad that detects movement (so breathing). It was expensive but the best thing we've bought baby wise