Do you think I have a problem?

[mykidsmum]

Please look at my responses on this thread and tell me whether Ineed to address this, wasn't until Istarted typing that i realised how wierd all this is here

copy and paste it before it gets lost in the thread

ermm,

i would be concerned. i dont know why, i cant put my finger on it but yest she is most definatly odd.

i think it quite possible she has had some experiance of abuse herself and is therefore over cautious and fixated on the subject.

i think i would try amnd speak to your H. and i wouldnt allow the chidlren to be alone with her.
that sounds horrible doesnt it.

err - yes this looks odd to me

I would be unhappy with anyone who promoted secrets amongst children

and the otehr stuff would just make me very uncomfortable.

I don't knwo what you should think or do about it - but I wouldn't be happy.

Thanks guys, it has bothered me for ages and she babysits no more but I just don't know where to go with it, my dp has huge issues with his parent not sexually related but it makes communication very difficult

charliecat I would if i knew how
it feels very wrong to be typing all of this like securmummy says i can't put my finger on it

my mil calls my children tarts and page three models when they are undressed, has done since they were babies, she also says things like, oohhh aren't they being provocative, now that ladies and gentleman is fucked up
I don't she is the oddest woman you ever met, once accused my sisters bloke of being wierd with the kids, who does that??
Also at my ds's birthday party started telling my mum in a very loud voice how one of the girls at the party had been interfered with by her dad who was now in prison. I was mortified, she is truely vile. her focus on sex and abuse truelly bothers me, but its a diffivult subject to approach with dp, there are so many more issues. She recently had my kids cousins to stay at hers and one slept in a bed with the grandmother and the other slept in a bed with the grandfather, the kids told me this when they came to min for tea. Personally I don't understand why if there were two neds why the adults didn't sleep to gether and the kids. I don't b;eiev any wrong doing is occuring as such but she does promote 'secrets' with my kids which I have had to tell them I'm not happy with. My kids know we don't have secrets.

btw I have copy and pasted below

Their is something very odd about that but I too can't put my finger on it.

is there a chance that she has had a bad experience in the past and it is resurfacing?
don't suppose you could ever find out.

something very unsettling about this. Not so much the fact she promotes secrets - I actually think it's not that uncommon for a grandparent to say to a child "that's our little secret" (in event chocolate has been given they know mummy might not approve of), but promoting secrets in conjunction with the other things would worry me. What kind of secrets does she have with your children? have you asked them?

tbh I wouldn't necessarily have assumed that she'd been abused, more that she'd been spoken to like that by someone, i.e. that someone had called her a tart or similar as a child, or said she was being provokative.