see below I copied this from a thread I started in other subjects to which I had a few replies,
I did tell the nursery manager what I knew as she is a Child Protection officer as well, and she called my childminder into her offices on Friday and had someone taking notes to verify what I told her, now my childminder is not very happy with me and apparently my childminder has had the Father of the children ringing her from France and he is furious saying this was a private arrangement. I now feel awful and although I do feel it was the right thing , I feel very devious , maybe I should have told the chindminder how I felt about this.
I'm in a dilema, my daughter who is 4 has attended the same nursery and childminder as another little girl for the last year, along with the the little girls sister who goes to the other part of the nursery for smaller children. The girls are 3 and 4 years of age.
This is quite a complicated situation..their mother is Brazillian , my childminder has never met her she lives abroad she was told in France , their father is Nigerian, he told the childminder he lived in the UK but works in France, coming back each weekend. They are cared for by a young girl who told the childminder she was a cousin, they live quite a mixed up routine always being picked up by different au -pairs ,they have moved address two -three times , they are very beautiful,boisterous and outgoing but very demanding and obvoiusly lacking in affection. Now my childminder has noticed over the last few months they hardly mention their father he does not come back at the weekend etc, he has been late in paying the childminder and the girl who cares for them said they had to move out of the flat they were staying in due to lease problems? last week the father rang my childminder and was told by him thast the girl we thought was there cousin is not a relative at all just a girl he found through an agency, she wants to go to uni and he asked my childminder would she take the girls said he will pay very well, she did'nt say how much but said it was alot of money.
My childminder is in her late fifties with grown up children this is not something she would want to do , she said the father is really pleading with her, I just think this is so sad, and if the father is to be believed he said he lives in a big house in France with the mother, why on earth would you leave two lovely girls on there own in another country, of course I know in some cultures this is not unusual.
Sorry this is so long my daughter finishs the nursery in two weeks and I just worry what will happen to them, would you ring Social Services I am wary of doing this , would I have to give my name?