am i being unreasonable?

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ds11,when he has a mate round i say they are only allowed to play in garden or in his room,i dont want them in the living room or kitchen&esp not on our pc,do you think thats unreasonable?i just feel that thats "my space" and i have to keep explaining why&dont think i should have to.
dd5 has friends round&they dont seem to listen to take your shoes off ect&run in&out when they please,i also dont want this all the time so some days i say no mates in,is that unfair in your opinion?

can understand not wanting them playing in the kitchen or on the pc - kitchen isn't a playground and pc is expensive and if they have their own games consoles/tv/dvd player etc they have no reason to be on the pc. I do think banning friends from the livingroom is very harsh though, after all it's family space and your children are part of that family and should be allowed to have their friends in family space, the same as you would let your friends into your livingroom when they visit.

Like WannaBe says would't allow them on the PC if they have got a games console to play on. I generally try to have just 1 friend round at a time as they are more likely to play together than run round like they do when there is more of them.

sorry, havn't read the whole thread but no, you are not being unreasonable. im sick and tired of other peoples kids coming into my home and being dis-respectful. they make a horrible mess in my kids bedrooms, put dirty handmarks up my walls, don't take their shoes off, leave the toilet unflushed after a poo, and generally leave the place looking like its been burgled.they want to eat everything ive got in the cupboards, im SO SICK OF IT!! ive made a new rule that if they want to come over to play they stay in the garden, there is plenty of room there.the house is cramped enough with my own 4 kids, without 3 more from the neighbourhood who visit daily. i wouldn't mind too much but my kids never get invited over to theirs much, it always seem to be at our house.AAAAAGGGRRR!!!

bubblepop at last someone who thinks like me,its nice to know im not the only one who has an open house lol

My parents were like this, we were allowed with friends in areas A and B but not in C, D, E, F, G, H, I, J, K, L, M, N, O or P. We always felt as if we were boarding in our parents house, never felt the space was "ours".