Age gaps

[Mummy0786]

Not sure where to post this so went here! I have a beautiful 16 month old daught and we are considering having a second. My husband would have had 11 by now if he was the one to give birth he he! But we are trying to consider the best age gap to ensure our daughter gets the most out of it, if that makes sense?! I am terriably worried that she will feel put out and I would hate this! Any advice on age gaps which have worked and what you have found good would be great x z

I don't think there's necessarily a 'best' age gap, it depends on the children really but I would say siblings often get along better if they're closer in age. The siblings I've known with only 12-18 months between them have all been very close. Of course it can work with a larger gap too but the dynamic is different, not like having a friend your own age. There's no guarantees anyway, I would also add your daughter might find it easier to adjust to having a sibling and 'sharing' you when she's younger.

The most important thing is that she knows she's not any less important and that you make her feel involved (as much as is appropriate). I'm sure others will have more help on what has worked for them.