I am the photographer everytime we have an EVENT

[daerwen]

Hello all,

I'm a new mom, and my baby is now 7 mts. Like most of us, we want to treasure every moment with him using our cameras right.

We live separately from both of our parents. My parents house are just around the corner though, but my inlaws' house is quite far. So basically we don't see each other, and of course, everytime we do, they go crazy about my SON (most importantly) and my hubby because THEY miss them.

So every time we meet, like go on a party or have a vacation in a hotel or something, I'm always the photographer. How would you feel about it? When you post the pictures in facebook, and see no face of yours either holding your son or even a photo with your husband? The album is full of my MIL photos with my SON, or with my son + husband. I understand that she misses them a lot yes, but do I really have to do the capturing all day long? I don't know if I'm just too dense or whatever. But these are moments with my family too, and we also deserve a picture together right? Yes it's just a photo come on.. but I think having a family also means collecting and making memories together. .and we can do that by photography. And what were making is memories of my MIL?

I don't understand if there's something wrong with me because I get frustrated not getting a single photo of us as a family. She also do ask me to take pictures of them. She says like "Hey, take us a photo" "Hey, take us a photo here." "Ok, now take a photo here in this spot".

????

Isn't it much better if someone else could take the picture for US? Why do I have to do all of this stuff? Am I not even part of the family? Whenever I posts the photos, my friends would comment.. where is the mommy? Where are you??

I don't know what to say anymore. What do you think? Am I wrong? Am I being too selfish?

If she is happy to TELL you to take pics, do the same to her. Take a pic, then turn it around and say aw that looks lovely MIL, now you take one for me. Or get DH to take one of you, MIL, and your DS. Take a pic then pass the camera to someone else, smile brightly and say "my turn!".

I am a single parent with very little family around. I ask passing strangers to take pics of me and DS together.

My DH gets this all the time, but then he is a photographer

I agree about turning it around on her - imagine she doesn't mean anything by asking you all the time though.
Perhaps the next time you're out and she asks, say 'well actually, I've realised I'm never in these shots so let's get someone else to take the photos'. When you've done it once, and told her honestly, it's out there.

And the more relaxed and level you keep your voice when saying it the better