Snappy!!!!

[littleraysofsunshine]

Just typed this then got deleted!

I am finding myself snappy a lot. I have 3yo dd, 17mo dd and 28 weeks pregnant with dc3.

I understand they're full on ages and 90% I'm fine! Just the more tired I am I get snappy and end up feeling bad for it. I feel bad when I try to have five minutes peace for a rest or cup of tea and being asked to read a pile of books, play play dough or dance. I love doing all these things but sometimes feel very tired and have to just say just wait five mins please, which for even a three year old is hard to tKe on.

Even the small things like please don't touch all that on the side. I end up asking tree times then raise my tone.

Please can you both share, play nicely, and I show them, then it still doesn't work.

I'm just tired and hormonal in bursts. As I said 90% I'm great! But a small percentage I feel like a horrid snappy mum.

Any tips?

You HAVE GOT TO be able to just sit away from.them for five minutes rmto calm down when you feel yourselg getting irritated.can you shove cbeebies on for one programme to keep their attention?i have same prob with ds,he wants to be everywhere with me and wants me to play everything with him when sonetimes i wish he could learn a bit of independant playing.btw youre human im.sure everyone feels AAAAAAAARGH at their kids sometimes

I'm just finding myself shouting a lot. I'm usually calm, chilled but I'm so shouty. They keep arguing over toys, dd1 does this horrible scream if dd2 takes a toy.

And then vice versa. I end up just shouting at them. Then get annoyed at myself for it. I have to shout for them to listen.. I've ne'er had to do keep doing it until recently.

Gosh, I am like you and I only have 1 child to cope with (and no pregnancy). Stop being mean to yourself. Of COURSE you are snappy if you are tired, and as LimitedEditionLady said, you need time to yourself.

I can only say that when I feel myself getting snappy I just walk out of the room for a minute, I say I'm making a cup of tea or something and leave her to it. Or set something up for her to play with - perhaps not so easy if the little one is after the elder child's toys all the time. I'd be inclined to switch on the telly or a DVD too.

I hope things get better for you OP!

You have 3yo dd, 17mo dd and 28 weeks pregnant with dc3 - well done for only being snappy 10% of the time!

As sproutpudding says - walk out of the room for a minute... have a cup of tea and regroup.... you need you time. If you don't look after yourself, how can you look after the little ones?

Pregnancy aside.. because I am a man and can't really comment on that aspect... when I have found myself getting ratty, and I know its not their fault, I put their coats on and go out...anywhere... to the shop... to the park.. or just for a walk around the block. Obviously I don't know how easy this is to manage in your third trimester!