Baby won't settle with daddy

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My little girl is 6 weeks old and won't seem to settle with her daddy. Any tips on how to overcome this. I can't even leave him with her to go for a shower and dry my hair and he is up with her.

She settles fine for my parents it just seems to be him.

Is he stressing about it?
They seem to know if you're stressed.
Is he wearing a strong aftershave?
Does he often wear wooly jumpers that may be irritating?
Is he doing too much jiggling or patting?

He could try skin to skin, or something unwashed of yours.

Do you hover in the background? I would go out and leave him to it. They probably haven't had the time completely alone that you have had.

I think him stressing about it is a big problem because as soon as I hold her or even talk she stops.

I might try going round to a friends for an hour and see how he manages.

I will get him to put my dressing gown on tonight see if that helps. He doesn't wear aftershave and normally just had a t shirt on.

Could he try reading out loud?
Could be the newspaper or whatever he's into but could help to keep him calm iyswim?

My ds would scream & cry whenever daddy held him until he was about 4 months old. Like you the minute I appeared he calmed instantly; showering, eating dinner etc was quite rushed & stressful.

There was nothing that helped I'm afraid, he just grew out of it & is now very very happy with daddy (I'm still his favourite!); he's 6.5 months old now. Although he still won't settle at bedtime for daddy, or during night wakings, which isn't great for me.

Luckily my dh didn't get upset or think his son didn't like him, he was very pragmatic & realised it was just another phase.

Is this of an evening or any time of day? If evenings, they're usually pretty tired and grumpy so not a surprise. I had showers in the mornings not evenings for that reason.

It might be better if he sticks her in a sling and goes for a walk instead. Because babies will sense if the person holding is not relaxed and the sound of crying probably stresses him out. Better for both if he gets out - nothing worse than being stuck in a room with a screaming baby.

She probably doesn't even realise you are 2 separate people yet so its no real surprise. I had my shower in the morning, if DH wasn't around I would stick them in a bouncy chair in the bathroom so they could see me in the shower.

Could he stick her in a sling and go out for a walk around the garden?

I’m having a similar issue. My daughter is 14 weeks old and has recently started having complete meltdowns at bedtime when my husband feeds her. He gets very tense and understandably upset and she only settles with me. He doesn’t do many of her feeds during the day, but is otherwise very hands on and adores her.
It’s causing a lot of upset now as he is taking it out on me and it’s causing a lot of stress. Any advice greatly welcomed!!!