Feel Guilty.Have now stopped potty training.

[mum2oliver]

I started potty training on Monday but have just this minute decided that my ds is not ready enough.I feel Im going to confuse him.He has asked sometimes but its always too late.He is fine when I prompt him but I dont want to apend weeks asking him if he needs the toilet.He just isnt ready.
What do I now say to him if he says he wants a wee?Should I just ignore or say do it in your nappy?

I would ask him if he wants to do it in the potty or in his nappy, then act accordingly.

How old is he?

He is 2.4.
Thats the best thing to say.Thanx.

I think you could explain simply that if he wants to go in the potty, just tell you, otherwise it is fine to go in his nappy. Tell him when he is older he will do all his wees in the potty / toilet but for now in the nappy is fine.

I admire you for waiting until he is ready

Ah thanx for that.There is so much pressure but whats the point of doing it too early.They will only do ot when they ready surely.
A friend of mine started last October and he is only just trained now,and Im not convinced he is definitely trained or whether its the mum.He is now 27months.

I don't see many children before age 3 or so who are what I would call 'trained'. If you have to keep asking them, and they have accidents half the time, how is that trained?

When he's ready it will come really quickly. I would just expain to him that soon he will be ready to use the potty, and when he's ready then he can use it, but as he's finding it hard you think it would be best to go back to nappies - but that he can always ask you if he wants to use the potty for a wee. Maybe try him with some easy-up pants instead of regular nappies so that when he asks to use the potty, it's easier for him to do.

I also admire you for recognising that he's not ready, and waiting until he is. There's too much pressure applied on little ones sometimes and you're right - he'll do it in his own time.

Thanku so much everyone.I dont feel guilty anymore.

Oh, please don't feel guilty, you have nothing to feel guilty for. You really are doing the right thing, there's no point in forcing the issue if he's not ready.

When I tried ds the first tim he was about the same age as your ds. He wasn't ready really so I gve it another few months and it was much easier for him to get the idea