ds 3years next month has always been very good at doing what he is told and has always got quite exited when asked to help out around the house e.g washing , cooking washing up ect ,
However since dd was born ,only 3 weeks , he wont do as he is asked ,tidy up time has turned into a full blown war , and when I ask him to help me do stuff he just says no which is strange as he has always seemed to really enjoy it !
Don't even get me started on bed and nap time has become are a real drama especially if he hears dd crying .(although he has always been a terrible sleeper ) I feel as though I am starting to resent him for this as the newborn actually doesn't sleep too badly and after all the work we have put in with his bed and nap routine pre - dd it all seems to have gone down the pan and I don't know how to get it back ?
I am assuming this i s all due to massive life change with dd arriving, his age as he is nearly 3 now and also he goes to pre school so I think he is picking up bad behaviour from the bigger kids as I find he is a lot more difficult when he comes home from school ,
I have been trying to use all my parenting puzzle techniques eg choices and consequences and rewards but I am struggling to stay calm as exhaustion and hormones seem to be taking over and I don't feel I am doing a very good job of coping with baby and toddler in the way I had planned to and strategized in the 9 months I was pregnant and feel very much as though I have lost my way on the discipline front.... !
guidance is very much needed. I so want to make sure ds feels secure and included but think I may actually be doing the opposite at the moment .