I'm 30 years old, and my partner is about to turn 47.
He has two kids already (aged 8 and 10 years old) but I would like a child of my own...the problem is that my partner and I live in two different countries. The plan is that I'll immigrate to live with him but right now due to business problems we've had to put that on hold, it may be another year before I'm able to move.
When I move there will be a lot of adjusting to the new country; I'll have to learn to drive, we're setting-up a new business, we will be moving at some point to somewhere temporary first then we may be building our own home, and I would also like to go to college to go into a new career (which would also involve volunteer work and trying to get involved in the local groups connected to the line of work I want to go into). Plus we like outdoor activities like camping trips and once the business is established we might want to travel.
I need an extra ten years. I'm scared that by the time I'm done adjusting to a new country and/or going after my career that it will be too late to have children - I'm not getting any younger, and my partner will be getting a little old to have a new baby too. I don't think we'd be able to fit in having a baby while adjusting or my going after a career as it'll be too much, especially if you consider we don't have family or friends to help us.
Am I going to have to give-up on having a career, or at least push it back a good few years, if I want to stand any chance of having a baby? Even without that factor it's still pushing it a little by the time we get ourselves sorted out in terms of the business and home.
...and this is just me. My partner is older, he's done the whole baby and childhood thing already, he's keen on building the business and exploring the country together...having another kid is not as important to him as it would be to me, so I'm worried that a few years along the line he will decide that having another kid is going to be too much.