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How young would you leave a baby with your mum so you could attend a party?

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paow · 04/07/2006 11:18

Hi all.
I'm not sure about this one as I will be first time mum in October.
They have announced the Xmas party at work and it will take place when ds is 2 months old, the day before his Christening, which means my parents will be staying round that night and I thought they could stay with the baby if I was to express milk and me and dh could go out to the party for 4 hours or so. What are your thoughts? Is that too young to leave for a night out? Not sure! and I don't want to reply to the Xmas invite in case they think I'm nuts!

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FioFio · 04/07/2006 11:19

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MerlinsBeard · 04/07/2006 11:20

u can leave them whenever u feel ready, u might change ur mind when the time comes and not want to leave him but then again, u may be eager to leave him for a few hours of adult compnay!

beckybrastraps · 04/07/2006 11:23

Blimey! You've planned the christening before the baby is born?!!

Say yes to the invitation. My first night out was a christmas party, and I left my mum huge quantities of milk and phoned every half hour or so. DS had one bottle, went to sleep and was still asleep when we got back. And he was a REALLY bad sleeper.

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lahdeedah · 04/07/2006 11:27

After two months I think you'll be glad of a night out! you can always change your mind or come home early if need be. Even if you're just out for a couple of hours it will be a nice break for you.

FrannyandZooey · 04/07/2006 11:28

Well I couldn't have done it but I was a particularly lunatic first time mum. I don't think he left my nipple for about 8 months. If you feel happy and the baby is used to your mum then why not?

hotmama · 04/07/2006 11:30

Go and have a fab time. I would only be happy if it was dp or my mum looking after a lo at that age. Leave expressed milk and it will be fine.

(dd1 was an Oct 04 baby and I enjoyed my Xmas lunch no end )

NotQuiteCockney · 04/07/2006 11:30

We went out for a concert when DS2 was less than two months. (Someone who hadn't toured the UK for like 9 years.) It was very good, but slightly long - we were out from 3pm to 10 or so. Lots of EBM left at home, both boys left with two very trusted babysitters, in our house.

If the Xmas party won't be far from home, it should be fine. You might want to leave early, though. If nothing else, you'll probably be a bit tired.

FrannyandZooey · 04/07/2006 11:32

Who was playing, NQC?

LaDiDaDi · 04/07/2006 11:36

I think that you should accept the invite, after all as others have said you can always change your mind at a later date.

I went out twice last weekend as it was my birthday and left dd with doting grandparents on each evening. We left milk for her and rang once each evening and were out for 3hoursish each time. DD was 7 weeks and fed and slept, she didn't miss us at all.

NotQuiteCockney · 04/07/2006 11:37

Tom Waits.

It was a lovely show, I absolutely had had had to go, despite new baby etc.

biglips · 04/07/2006 11:43

my baby was a oct 04 baby and in dec when baby was 2 months old... i went to see the dogs (greyhound racing in manchester and im from liverpool) i was dying to ring my friend to see how are things but Dp banned me and to enjoy the nightout - i didnt ring her and i really enjoyed the nightout with Dp

so you ARE going and you WILL enjoy it

Thomcat · 04/07/2006 11:45

2 months - yeah go for it. Perfectly fine and the perfect opportunity for you to have some fun with your parents looking after your baby in your own house. You'd be mad not to.

KristinaM · 04/07/2006 11:46

plan to go. I left mine at about 6 weeks and I am PARTICULARLY neurotic post partum

BTW are you sure you want to set teh date for teh christening? Some babies dont arrive on time

Tortington · 04/07/2006 12:07

about 3 days - give miself time to get over hangover

LucyJones · 04/07/2006 12:10

Planning Christmas parties in July - madness
I would plan to go too although a word of caution. Some people, myself included, never get the hang of expressing milk, but your parents could always give a top up formula bottle if necessary... And be prepared for ginormous leaking breasts at the party... don't forget breast pads!!

trinityrhino · 04/07/2006 12:10

it's all about how you feel about it
noonecan tell you when is too young
If you are happy that your mum can cope and that she will ring you if she isn't coping then thats fine

I have done that for a birthday party of a very close friend, we went for about 2 hours and my mum fed the baby some EBM and then she slept till after we were home
I felt a little nervous and wanted to ring but dh said that I reakky didn't need to as my mum would alwasy ring if I was needed and I trusted her judgement on whether I was needed or not

LucyJones · 04/07/2006 12:11

p.s. Have you actually organised the Christening then? Paid for it etc? (sorry being a bit nosey but can't get my head around organising it before the irth!!)

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paow · 04/07/2006 12:40

Hi ya all, thank you so much for your replies! really appreciate it.

As for the Christening, no! haven't paid or booked anything, just got a date in mind as my parents have to travel from Overseas and have to buy tickets well in advance in order to come over around Xmas time, you know how expensive it is to travel around that time.

I know! it's mad how we are already thinking about Xmas parties, I can only blame the Office Manager!
take care

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Xavielli · 04/07/2006 14:50

Went to a little gathering at my brothers GF house ( along the road.) for about 3 hours when my DS was 10 days old. I lived with my olds at the time so they pretty much oushed me out the door.. 10 days sounds really young but with a new baby it can seem like ages! lol, be glad of the break.. its only a couple of hours, will do you the world of good. I get pushed out of the house every weds to a pub quiz as DP thinks it is good for my sanity, being asthough I spend my day with 2 babies...The adult company is really appriciated.

sunnydelight · 04/07/2006 20:04

DH and I went to London overnight leaving DD with her godparents when she was 2 months old. It was my oldest friend's 40th; she lives in Africa now and I see her once/twice a year so I really didn't want to miss it. I would certainly see no problem with leaving your child with your parents for a couple of hours.

saltcod · 04/07/2006 21:39

My Mum & Dad had dd overnight at approx 6 or 7 weeks old - I didn't worry about her at all, knew she was in the best care. And I remember DH & I being ridiculously excited at the prospect of an unbroken night's sleep !!!

poisson · 04/07/2006 21:42

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vickiyumyum · 04/07/2006 21:54

i was dreading opening this thread and seeing you all saying 'god no couldn't possibly leave lo for at least a year' etc etc so relieved.

i left dd last night for the first time to go to the red hot chilli pepeers concert, just had to go have loved them since i was about 13 or 14 and have seen them a few times, including hyde park a few summers ago, but they were playing in the town i live in a stadium just under half an hours walk away. dd is 15 weeks old, but i left her overnight with my mum, and ds2 we took ds1 with us (its his 9th birthday today) i had to express enough to get 5 bottles just in case she needed them, luckily i had some expressed milk in the freezer.

the only thing i would say is to start expressing in plenty of time and give you baby expressed milk from a bottle from as soon as you can (say 4-6 weeks old) as they often refuse the milk from a bottle if they have never had it before, also gives you chance to build your milk supply up so you can express good amounts.

most of all have fun! (in advance)

Blackduck · 04/07/2006 21:57

haven't read whole thread...but went out for dinner with my dad when ds was 4 weeks old (ok wasn't out for long and my mum had him - dp at work...) I found I only went out if I really wanted to IYSWIM.....if it felt like a 'duty' well ds is the perfect excuse

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