other halfs

[littlewind]

Not sure if I'm putting this in the right place. But wanted a moan really.Do any other mum's find when their husbands have a day off they try to do ask little as possible? Or they just go out?

Yes
Mine stays in bed until 30 min before he has to leave the house very often
Annoyibg

Not really, I look forward to weekends -almost as much as Mondays-- because dh is home and can share cooking/shitty nappy duties. He watches more tv than I do but he does his fair share. If I need time out, a rest, a nap or just a trip into town by myself then I just leave him with the kids and go. I don't ask because they're his kids too and therefore as much his responsibility as mine. And they deserve his company as much as I deserve a break. Don't get me wrong, he has time away too; he can have a lie-in or an afternoon off too, but he doesn't take the piss.

If you feel he isn't pulling his weight, talk to your oh about it. Let him know how tired you are and how much you need a break, because if he doesn't know there's a problem, he can't fix it. Failing that, just go out/upstairs and leave him to it.

No.
Dh always looked after dcs from when they were about 6 weeks old, on a Saturday afternoon.

He always helped with bath/bedtimes...done all the football/cricket weekend stuff...took ds to Oz twice.
He does all the gardening, bins, hoovering...all the jobs I hate.

Can't understand why couples don't discuss this right from the start. Dh plays golf most days...but I always got plenty of time to myself. He wants me to!

No my dh know that this is not acceptable. When he is at home we are both equally responsible for the children. But I would not have married him if he hadn't signed up to that

Eg when I was on maternity leave and bf ing I got up in night. But after they were 6 months old and on bottles and me at work he knew that he was equally responsible for night time wakings.

No. DH is up with DD on a Sat so I can lie in. He then takes her to Rhymetime followed by swimming. He then plays rugby while I care for DD. On a Sunday I get up with DD and then go to church while DH gets a lie in. After church DH takes DD to the park so I get a break in the afternoon.

Nope.

Sometimes I feel like a single parent! And when I say anything about it all I get is him arguing how hard he has to work! Which then we get into a big fight!!