A Room full of poo!

[jerikaka]

Help. I have been potty training ds1 (2.9) for about four weeks now. He has a speech delay, so doesn't really say when he needs to go, but if I take him every hour to hour and a half he goes in the toilet. He's not keen on using the potty. 1st problem is that he has taken to taking his nappy off first thing in the morning and pooing on the carpet in his room. we have told him to go on the potty, but he has been doing this for about 3 weeks now, and our patience is wearing a little thin. 2nd, Am I starting him too early? If I don't take him to the toilet then he just wets himself, though if the back door is open then he will pee out the back door. I really don't know whether I shoudl just put him back in nappies until his speech comes on a bit more. He has about 60 words, but doesn't tend to use them consistently.
Not sure whether I should have posted this on SN section, but if anyone has any advise, it would be much appreciated.
Thanks

What do you say to him when he poos on the floor? Do you praise him when he wees out the back door? Do you give him rewards?

I would say give yourself a break and wait a bit longer until he can tell you. That's a totally uninformed opinion in fairness as my dd is as yet untrained.

when he has poo-ed we say "did you not want to poo in the potty?", but he just runs off and basically ignores us. i can't stop him taking his nappy off. beginning to think that laminating his floor might be the best option!

when he pees out the back door i say "did you not want to pee on the toilet?" am i doing it wrong?
he is getting stickers on his reward chart when he pees in the toilet

If he pees out the back door I'd be congratulating him! Less wet nappies to change!

I'd say nothing about the accidents, so he gets no attention whatsoever for peeing or pooing on the floor. And for doing it in the potty, isn't he a bit young for reward sticker charts? My ds is 2.5 and wouldn't have a clue what I was doing! Immediate rewards work best, a chocolate, clapping of hands, whoops of joy, praise of "WHAT A BIG BOY!"

Agree with Rhubarb's advice.

Getting them to poo in the potty (or toilet) is often much harder than getting them to wee. And in the early days and weeks you need to actually take them to the potty very frequently, rather than asking if they need to do a wee.

Good luck ! - I'll be potty training ds next month, so you have my sympathy!

I wasn't sure about the reward chart, but thought it was worth a try to concentrate on his good behaviour, as the bad behaviour is getting a bit out of hand.

With my ds I find that if I ignore the bad behaviour, totally, and concentrate on his good behaviour then things do get better. Very hard to do at times though. Case in point, ds always makes a fuss at mealtimes, throws his plate to the other side of the table, spills his drink, throws his spoon and fork on the floor. Instead of responding I'll talk calmly to dd and dh and completely blank him. After 10 minutes of very very irritating behaviour that I'm sitting through with gritted teeth trying to ignore, he'll get the message and he'll actually start eating and quieten down! He also behaves better if he eats on his own, he has no attention then you see.