First time seeing his daughter in 2 years.

[Jellypudmum]

My db (single) is to see his 13 yr old daughter for the first time in 2 years (bad divorce, ex wife played dirty and told dd all kinds of lies but now at 13 she has taken the decision to phone and now see her dad). He and she wanted me there for support and I was just wondering if anyone has any ideas of a good thing to do with them? Wanted something nice but not too try hard iyswim??

Bump

Where are they?

North Derbyshire

Do you think it might be better for them to see each other alone on this first meeting?

Ice skating?

I dont know the area, so no suggestions.
How about going for a meal somewhere? - will give them plenty of time to talk.
Or to a park followed by a meal?

Any big shopping centres nearby? Could you go shopping followed by a meal? Although actually a 13yo girl is probably not going to want to go shopping with her dad! I would probably take her for lunch followed by a stroll somewhere, if there is an old bit of town or somewhere suitable. Derbyshire is pretty but not a proper walk or hike - would likely be a disaster if it rained and most early teenagers aren't too thrilled by walks in the country. What town is nearby?

If they haven't seen each other for a long time it may be a good idea not to do much so they can talk. They ob need too. Also there won't be allot of pressure to have "fun". They can always have fun days out later.

I'd agree that they need to talk in general. But at the first meeting it might be a bit much to expect major heart-to-hearts. I'd suggest something where they don't have to have eye-contact and do have a ready-made conversation starter (low-key exhibition/museum/bowling/shopping/crazy golf - whatever he thinks may suit his DD/himself). Nothing too expensive/difficult though as obviously they may get into a heavy discussion. Also ideally somewhere you can be around but not hearing everything IYSWIM.

Good luck

Can he ask his DD what she would like?

I remember seeing my dad after not seeing him for about 2 years when i was 14. I hated the fact he brought his wife along with him (we already had a difficult relationship) I just wanted my dad.

Maybe I'm biased but I think you should back out of this and I say that as a stepmum now.

Well not a stepmum now sorry, came out on auto pilot me and ex not been split for long.

Ask her. Have some options for her to choose between as she may be over-whelmed. Also bring a gift - books (if she's into reading), jewellery (if she's a typical girl), fashionable coat plus receipt or similar etc. I don't think you should go.

All went really well. I kept trying to leave them alone but his dd was keen for me to stay! We went for coffee, bowling and then shopping for lunch. Finally snuck out for an hour and suggested they both make lunch.

I'm glad you went and it all went well, and obviously didn't listen to the suggestions that it was inappropriate of you to go. Your OP clearly says his DD wanted you there, so I'm glad you went. Not every situation and teenager is the same. :)