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A question for those who have used CC / CIO

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GingerDoodle · 17/10/2013 12:11

Disclaimer: I'm not for or against it!

How long have your LO's screamed for? Do they get to the drenched in sweat, looking likely to puke stage?

We've been having a few sleep issues and Monday night we resolved, there was nothing wrong, so to leave DD (almost 13 months) to her own devices. She screamed blue murder after after 10 minutes got to the aforementioned stage and we got her up. I just couldn't see her getting herself to sleep in that state so i'm just curious as to what others have experienced.

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Mintyy · 17/10/2013 12:13

Which are you doing then, cc or cio?

I don't remember my dd crying for as long as 10 minutes with cc as she was never left that long before someone reassuring her and telling her it was time to sleep.

ilovepowerhoop · 17/10/2013 12:18

sounds like you did CIO whereas with CC you would have gone back in within a couple of minutes to reassure her before leaving again. There are also options of Gradual retreat or pick up/put down if you feel CIO/CC arent working

JedwardScissorhands · 17/10/2013 12:24

We did something in between CIO and CC. Stayed in the room during the screaming making reassuring ssh noises, but no lifting out of the cot.

I know the received MN wisdom is not to do CIO or CC, but I couldn't be spending all night putting one DC to bed with other DCs needing bedtime stories, kisses etc

There was screaming for maybe 10-15 minutes, then lying down exhausted with occasional half asleep wailing. Ultimately I felt a tired baby needs sleep.

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GingerDoodle · 17/10/2013 12:30

I was popping in and out, but tbh that made it worse! See me, hand dummy to me (or rather wave it for me to take which is what she does when she wakes up) and continue screaming.

We're not actively going to use either - for us DD has a certain cry (as experienced that night) which no amount of popping in / reassurance / leaving her is going to result in sleep in what I consider a reasonable amount of time (10 minutes or so).

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Mintyy · 17/10/2013 12:54

Controlled crying is very specific, not just vague popping in and out. You need to time it. It is quite hard work but ime works extremely quickly.

hardboiledpossum · 17/10/2013 15:11

I tried for 90 mins. He was hysterical and I just couldn't see it working. He shook with fear for about a week after, overtime we went through the bedtime routine.

I don't think what jedward is describing is anything like cc ir cio as you are not leaving them alone upset.

mumofboyo · 17/10/2013 15:15

Ds never needed it.

Dd is a screamer anyway, no matter where she is, who she's with and what she's doing. We did cc-lite with her, going in every 2-5 mins or so until she shushed and went to sleep. We still do on ooccasion, when she doesn't settle but isn't poorly. It takes about 10-15 mins usually.

We listen to the crying. As I said, she screams the place down quite a lot, esp if she's tired, but if it sounds like she's more upset than angry we take her out and comfort her. If she's just angry then we repeatedly go in, lay her down, cover her over, shush her and leave.

MillionPramMiles · 17/10/2013 16:31

It depends what works for your dd. Some babies get more worked up if they see you’re there and not picking them up, others are reassured by ssshing/patting. Find out what seems to work best for your dd and stick to that.

We left dd to cry for increasing periods, going in in between to give dummy, make sure she had her teddy and pat if necessary (but not pick up). We didn't stay in long, just enough till she calmed down. When we first started at around 10 mths it was 2/4/6/8 mins and as she grew older we increased it. Now we would leave her for around 10m mins unless ill.

To be honest what’s helped the most is dd being able to find a dummy and put it in herself. I know that’s just another sleep crutch but I’ll tackle that later. And it’s a lot easier than patting/rocking/feeding to sleep.

Does your dd sleep with a favourite teddy/comforter? It can make them feel they're not alone.

waterrat · 17/10/2013 17:56

We didn't leave him - stayed in room singing : shhing. But he was younger - cried for 15 mins in two occasions then sleep massively improved .. Not at all perfect but much better

Now he is 18 months I have walked out / but if he became a you describe I would pick up and cuddle. Would only leave if he was falling asleep ....

Pick up put down can work well - I really don't agree that you have to use specific timins out of some random book. Do what you feel is right for your child ...

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