Ways to stop toddler screaming.

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Hi,

Does anyone have any strategies for a screaming toddler. It seems to be when he's frustrated or someone takes a toy away from him.

I realise it comes from a place of emotion. But, honestly, it hurts my ears as he's so loud.

Any tips?

Sounds like a tantrum. Earplugs work well, or leaving him in adage place while you retreat a safe distance.

a safe place

How old?

think it depends who is taking the toy away, if another child then I think the other child should not do so, if an adult then why are they doing it, if you were in middle of reading the paper imagine pre children or writing an e mail to a friend and someone came and took the paper or flicked off your computer screen you would be pretty irritated maybe not scream with ds 2.3yrs I try to give warnings like tea is in five minutes, can you come and wash your hands (which he likes because he can make a soapy mess at the sink) or lets find your teddy who can come to tea with us, basically distraction is key, also often use "is that next doors cat I can see in the garden" (he can see out if window in his high chair!!)

p.s ds does scream I just hope to minimise it!

He's coming up for three.

In most situations it's another child, or his toy isn't doing as it should.

Mine is the same, three at the end of the year.

I have been explaining to him, if something doesn't work say 'please mummy I need help', if someone is in the way 'excuse me', if he wants me to pay attention 'excuse me mummy'. I sound like a complete knob but he actually said 'excuse me mummy' today so maybe it's sinking in.

I just te down to his level and say 'you need to tel me using words'.

Still no cure for the screaming at other children though, although it helps to know others are going through it and he's not just an awful little boy

How's his speech? One thing my DS's nursery does, which works, is firmly but encouragingly tell them to "use their words". Also when they do, say something along the lines of "you're cross/angry but if you tell me, I can help" or something. We had to do it quite a lot with ds but now if he screams he's quick to calm and talk instead. He does still yell but this is when he's tired (eg after waking at 5am )